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Posted on July 14, 2009 @ 11:57 am
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What's your opinion on long-distance relationships?
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Posted on July 13, 2009 @ 12:06 pm
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This guy is basically the worst person ever. But I still want to forgive him. Really really long but please read!!!!
( Not a boyfriend story... )
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Posted on July 12, 2009 @ 7:08 pm
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How do you help a friend whose parents are going through a divorce?
This started in June/late May but he slowly started pushing certain people away and, come to discover its really been bothering him that his mom and step-dad are going through divorce. He goes through these hot and cold phases with me when talking through texts,like one week we'll text 3-4 times a week(sometimes until 1-5 am like we used to before this happened) then the next i'm lucky to get one. I'm trying not to take what he does personally,but i've never gone through divorce and don't really know how to help him other then to text him,or email him little things i think he might like and hope the conversation is longer this time.
Have any of you gone through this with friends? or yourself even?
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Posted on July 10, 2009 @ 1:36 pm
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unrequited love. how do you get over it?
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Posted on July 07, 2009 @ 11:10 pm
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A few people i work with and myself were planning on going camping in one of the girls backyards,only they want alcohol to be involved since they can't get it themselves since their underage. One of the girls just turned 17,and the rest i think are between 18-19. Now,at the time i was excited about the idea of camping out and it didn't really hit me that i'd have to go in to a liquor store and pile a bunch of alcohol on the counter while they wait on me in the car,plus having to juggle everyones money and making sure they all got the right change back. I don't want to buy them alcohol,i don't want any part of it, i feel sketchy and weird doing it. I don't know them that well other than we work and joke around together at work,if i was really good friends with someone and they were 19 or 20 then yeah i might buy them some but i feel weird buying a 17 year old alcohol. I just don't want this to be lets use her to buy us alcohol and thats the only reason were even hanging out.
Part of me thinks i won't even have to worry about making an excuse because they always bail at the last minute,but they seem serious about this one. Then,if i tell them no they'll get mad and hate my guts but at this point i don't really care.
So,what can i tell them?
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Posted on July 06, 2009 @ 6:18 pm
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Background: I'm 20, my boyfriend is 22, and we have been dating 1 year and 7 months.
There is a 4-day camp out Christian worship concert that I have wanted to go to since I was little. I haven't been able to go in the past-- far away, expensive, etc. It is coming up in a few weeks. My boyfriend has been to it many times, and is going again this summer for the first time since 2006. Yesterday he said that it would be fine if I came with him and his friends. Today, it is like talking to a different boyfriend! He told me I would have no fun, he would only be with his friends the whole time, and that because we don't like the same genre of music (there are multiple stages) going with me would be impossible. His friends welcomed me to come with them, and I don't understand why he can't spend time with me and his friends. I wasn't asking him to hold my hand the entire time. I feel as though he is being very selfish and assumptive. Am I in the right? He gets plenty of friend time without me and knows that I have wanted to go to Sonshine (the concert) for some time and that going with him will probably the only way I will ever get to go. Additionally, he just had his car fixed and keeps telling me how he has "no money." I understand.... but then the idea of this concert came up and suddenly he has an extra $150+ dollars to spend for this 4-day event? What gives? Just this weekend he asked me to pay for his Wendy's meal because of his lack of funds! I actually considered buying his ticket until he said all of the above to me.
So.... do I have a reason to be a little upset? Or do I need to let him be with his friends all alone and miss out once again just because we don't have similar music taste? Thanks :)
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Posted on July 04, 2009 @ 12:13 am
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I have been dating this great guy, Billy, for a year and eight months. He always says that I'm the best thing in his life. As sweet as it is to hear, his actions don't always prove this statement. I am just so frustrated and I feel so underappreciated.
For instance, currently Billy is on vacation visiting family in New York. We have hadly talked at all, maybe 15-20 minutes a night. I had the last straw tonight. He is visiting family that he sees three times a year and he has seen them all day, every day for a week and a half. I don't understand why it's so wrong to want him to maybe make 30-40 minutes for me. Even if it's just occasional. This is our last summer before I go away to college, and I just feel like we keep getting into arguments over the same things. It's really starting to eat away at me. And I don't know what to do.
I tell him when something is bothering me and he tells me he'll change it. And then nothing changes. We have the same conversations/arguments over and over again. I've changed what I'm supposed to change and I feel like I've made some hard-earned progress. All I want is for him to give some effort too. I feel like if this relationship meant something to him, that he would give more of an effort and not frustrate me in the same ways as he usually does.
I ask him to make him a priority. I know it's ridiculous to be higher than family and I would never ever ask that. I think it's wonderful and sweet that he values family so much. I just feel like in relation to his family, there's no room for me. And he doesn't understand that. When I ask him to just give me an extra 10 minutes on the phone, he gets defensive and tells me to call up all 11 of his aunts and uncles and to tell them that I want to have him just for myself, like I'm taking him away from them. I feel that he's just not being fair. I rarely see ANY of my family and when I do, I am always able to balance them and him without a problem. I just don't feel important...I know I am, but he just....doesn't know how to make me feel that way. And after a year and eight months together, I REALLY need to feel more important and like I matter more than I did when we first started dating. I don't know why it's so much to ask...ugh.
There are a bunch of other little things like sometimes he talks down to me or raises his voice at me unnecessarily and he knows it, but he just doesn't realize when he does it...
I just really want some advice because I feel like I've done everything to try and get him to understand. I must need a different approach. Ideas are GREATLY appreciated....I love him and he means the world to me.
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Posted on July 03, 2009 @ 7:10 pm
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on may 20,2009 my father died of cancer.
my parents have been devorced for about 5 years now but were trying to fix things.
the last thing i ever said to him was fuck you i dont ever want to see you again.
it hurts so bad having the only person who truely loved you for you dead.
i need advice on a few things.
-my mom is dateing someone new and i find myself hateing my own mother and her new boyfriend. how could she do that to him hes only been gone for a month.one month.thats all.not a few years but a single month.
-when my dad died he had lied to my mother about having paid for the arangments and having a will so his slut of a girlfriend lisa kept everything and didnt have a service.
-tord the end of his life my father had a bad drug problum.pot and coke were a very serious part of his everyday life.every sence he passed away ive been getting more into drugs and it terrifys me that im letting him down.im 16 and im already use to smoking pot and snorting coke i like it because it keeps my mind off life.every second im numb is a second less that i have to think about what a fuck up i am.he must be so dissaponted.
i guess i just needed to vent a little.but any advice or if you think im over reacting please just let me know also sorry about the spelling im really bad at it
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Posted on July 02, 2009 @ 9:03 pm
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This might be a bit of a long shot (and please, lemme know if there's a better community for this!), but I was wondering if anyone knew of any good, online stores that sell dorm bedding (like comforters, sheets, ect). In this case, I need twin extra long. I'll be going off to college soon and would like something unique and reasonably priced.
So far I've tried Target, Walmart, Urban Outfitters, and Deliah's. Thanks to anyone who can help!
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| Dating your best friend |
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Posted on July 01, 2009 @ 6:46 pm
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Yeap. Name implies what it implies. What do you think about it?
It seems awkward for me to think about dating anyone that isn't that close to me. Why would I place my heart into the hands of someone who I can't trust to really take care of it? However, at the same time I also know from personal experience that it's a huge gamble on that friendship. If you date your best friend and then you break up with unresolved issues or whatever it is, then yeah.
ANYWAYS. Dating your best friends, pros (even if you don't agree with them), cons (even if you don't agree with them), and your own personal opinion and if you would or would not date your best friend.
This has been something that's been itching at me for a while and just wanted to hear other people's thoughts. 'Kay Thanks =)
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Posted on June 29, 2009 @ 7:54 pm
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Okay, so I know this question was asked before but I couldn't find it so...
When do you think you lose virginity? With actual penetration or something else?
Thanks in advance. ♥
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Posted on June 29, 2009 @ 10:00 am
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My boy of about 2 years broke up with me about two months ago.
He really didn't give me a reason and it hurt me a lot.
He told me that he doesn't want to talk to me until he gets over me...when he was the one who broke up with me...
So I was like.
Okay.
Whatever.
My friends and family helped me get over him.
And they made me realize the stuff he did and said during the relationship was straight out BS.
Now I'm still really hurt because of the stuff he said and did to me.
But I don't miss him at all.
I've gone on a couple of dates since then.
I feel good!
Well, I took my mother out to lunch yesterday and she told me that he called the house on Saturday to get a hold of me while I was at work.
My brother picked up the phone and I guess they talked.
I guess he wanted to reccomend a book about co-dependency to me...(WTF?)
And who knows what else he wanted tot alk to me about...
I'm just REALLY upset because he had the guts to call my house and talk to my brother who he knows is my bestfriend.
Instead of calling me later or asking me for my new cell-number via Myspace or E-mail.
My whole family doesn't like him.
They never did while we were dating and they never will.
My mother said my brother doesn't want to tell me about the call because it'll make me upset.
It got me SuPER upset when my mother told me.
SHould I call him back to ask him what he wants from me and to leave my family the F alone?
Or should I let it go?
Should I confront my brother about it or just let it go?
I don't know what to do cos he husrt me so much saying stuff like he doesn't want to talk to me...blah blah blah...
And all of the sudden, he called my house.
Sorry if this made no sense...
I'ms till half asleep.
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Posted on June 28, 2009 @ 3:23 pm
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Does anybody have any advice on how to be more positive and look at life in a positive way? And how to be a better person? I'm really mean to people because it makes me feel better, and I'm always rude to other people I don't know. I think it's better to make people hate me than for them hating me for no reason at all as I see people do all the time.
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Posted on June 26, 2009 @ 1:06 am
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So me and this one girl were friends for years. But a few months ago we had a very nasty falling out, mostly my fault.
I have been missing her alot and wanted to patch things up, her birthday is in a couple weeks; so I decided to get her a nice birthday card and a gift card. I messaged one of our mutal friends asking for her address so I could mail it to her and told him my whole plan and he was happy I was reaching out to her. This was a few days ago
Well today police raided her house and discovered the marijuana plants her mom was growing. I was one of the few people who knew about them, and everyone thinks I ratted her out.
I can't believe this bs. I was trying to FIX things, I wouldnt ever do that to her let alone anyone. She hates me and dosn't trust me. Is there anyway I can salvage this friendship after this? She means alot to me and I do miss her. And How can I convince everyone that it wasn't me?
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Posted on June 24, 2009 @ 5:20 pm
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I was diagnosed with anorexia when I was eighteen after suffering with it since I was thirteen; I'm going to be twenty at the beginning of August. I have my good and bad days and that's to be expected. I've been in and out of counselling but there are very limited services for people with eating disorders where I live, so I've been working on it on my own, with this textbook sort of thing I got from group therapy. Like I said, I have my good and bad days, some days are easier than others but my problem now is people are starting to notice. I was on stress leave from work for three and a half months and that caused me to drop a lot of weight from being depressed.
( The problem )
Any advice would be so appreciated, I'm really stressing over this. Thanks.
-C.
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| Building a hospital in South Africa |
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Posted on June 22, 2009 @ 11:02 am
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Hi,
I'm actually very unsure of where to start and this just seems like an idea that I conjured up in my head that would never end up materializing. I'm 19 and don't have any degree yet, so as far as I know I have to find someone with a business (?) degree to help me out. I'm just unsure of where to seek this person and if they would actually have any interest in my plan. I'm thinking of spending the next 2 years (possibly more?) of my life fundraising to build a hospital in South Africa. It's going to take a lot out of me but I really want to do this. I need to start with an event or something but as far as I know, no older person would take me seriously enough to help. Plus I don't know what the legalities and tax issues of it are. I'm going to need lots of outside help but first I want to be able to prove I can do this. Where should I start? How much should I collect before I can propose this plan to some humanitarian that would help me? Any help is really appreciated because I hope this plan does materialize.
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Posted on June 22, 2009 @ 12:14 am
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My girlfriend recently got invited to go to a male strip club with a girlfriend of her's. I don't like it. I asked her not to go, but then she was like, I'm just going to sit in the back, watch a little and have a girl, you have nothing to worry about. But I still feel like shit if she went. She also said before she walked out, "you don't own me". So, should I just be like, what the fuck ever and let her do what she wants, but still feel like shit because she's hanging out with all these naked dudes and putting money in their shorts/thongs or whatever they are. I also asked her how she would feel if I told her I was going to a female strip club, she said she wouldn't care, but I only asked that to get her to look at things from my perspective; I have no intention of going to one myself. So any advice?
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Posted on June 19, 2009 @ 5:56 pm
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I have this guy friend who is pretty close to me.
he wants to ask me out, and even though he isnt the best looking, i do kind of like him back.
but i feel so stupid, i feel like when someone asks me out i should have a physical attraction to him... and i dont really, i know this is kind of selfish.
but i know if i turn him down he will find someone else and i will be jelous,
should i give it a shot? please helpppp.
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Posted on June 16, 2009 @ 5:36 pm
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(i wasnt accepted here on a diff account that i was posting from last week so i posted elsewhere)
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I would like to thank everyone who helped me with a post almost a week ago about my controlling boyfriend making the threats for if I left
My parents and brother all helped me to be able to receive a PFA today and move all my belongings and my kitties out of the house without him ever knowing until it was too late for him to stop it.
It helps to have some people there agreeing with you that, yes, it is wrong and yes, you need to get out of the situation. It helps even more to have a great family there to support you but when you're too scared to let them know or to disappoint them (which I didn't- HE did) it helps to have that extra push from someone out of the picture.
I have also used other accounts in the past to talk about this guy (always account hopping so he'd never find out) and ignored advice because of the trance I was under but I am finally done, and although it still hurts, I know I'm safe and able to find happiness again.
Thank you to everyone and I wish that nobody would have to post about these things again and that he never does this to another girl again (but sadly, I couldn't fix him, and it wasn't my job to keep sitting around and trying)
(I also know that the PFA can't protect me 100% but nothing can, at least now I have people to help me and I'm out of his house.)
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| Identifying admiration, a shy boy, and a reason to believe it all. |
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Posted on June 14, 2009 @ 11:04 pm
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Hello,
First time post for me. Um...well, here's the situation:
I like a boy named Martyn. He's a sweetheart, and I've known him for two years, but I have reason to believe he likes me. A year ago his mother told me he had feelings for me. At that time I was taken. But now I'm not and I'm interested in him and wish to pursue him...but how can I tell he is also interested?
He's extremely shy, and today I went out and walked around town with him, and we talked a bit. I found that his main problem is with girls, he finds girls he likes but they're often taken. I idly remarked 'by any chance was i one?' and he avoided the question.
He also mentioned 'Well we like the same things, the same foods...so why don't we do a lot of the same things together? Like a, um...' and he drifted off.
:( He seems to be hinting at what I've been hoping he's been hinting at, but...I'm unsure. He likes to spend time with me, so he tells me, and we enjoy talking to one another, laughing at each others jokes, having much of the same interests and whatnot, but I want to get the answer out of him: does he like me?
Problem is I don't really want to corner him and be like 'DO U LAIK ME? Y/N?'
I don't want to corner him and scare him away...is there a subtle way to figure this out? Is there a way I can figure it out? A friend said I should kiss him on the cheek and see his reaction, but I'm scared that'll creep him out and is out of the question.
Please help!! I've never been in such a predicament of taking the first step in a relationship before!
-Z
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