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| Sunday, July 27th, 2008 |
tortillafactory
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12:51a |
warms Highlight of my night so far: Pulling a sweatshirt out of the freshly-dried laundry and crawling into its cocoon of warmth and softness. Everything else has been pretty much shit. Not for any particular reason, I just feel like I have a hangover. Current Mood:  crappy |
| Saturday, July 26th, 2008 |
mecurtin
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11:51p |
Today's word is FAIL So apparently there's this show, The Secret Life of an American Teenager, on ABC Family, by the people who inflicted "Seventh Heaven" on an unsuspecting world. And it's about a teenage girl who gets pregnant (in a one-night stand with the school's Bad Boy, of course) and decides to not get an abortion, and a bunch of other stuff. And there's lots of not-so-covert Christian subtext, and apparently it's getting great ratings (will ... to live ... fading). Nonetheless, I was blissfully ignorant of this whole phenomenon until ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) thebratqueen reported, of tonight's episode: The plotline was this: A teenage girl is by herself after dark, waiting for her friend to pick her up. Two drunk guys come up and go after her, very obviously to rape her. While getting away the girl falls to her knees, says a quick prayer (her character is Evangelical), then breaks a beer bottle and brandishes it at the men. Her friend then comes up and chases the men away.
That's not the bad part.
The bad part is THE SECURITY CAM FOOTAGE OF THIS EVENT IS PLAYED ON THE NEWS FOR LAUGHS. Apparently this entire plotline is used as a joke. If you think I'm kidding, just watch part 1. (It's all at the beginning, nothing to fast forward to in order to get to it) Now, neither tbq nor I have been able to watch the show in detail, what with that will to live thing and the repressed vomitting and all. So maybe ... later ... this will all turn out to be a sign of the Depravity of Our Times? That liberal media, ya know, and the father who's laughing at the news footage is a failure at Christian Headship (which is the root of all the trouble) ... maybe? Has anyone actually *seen* this show and can comment? Meanwhile, tbq gives us link for Feedback to ABC Family. |
morrigan_circle
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10:45p |
i don't want to know what goes on in that head of yours
the baby shower for dirtyblonde was a smash. we made it coed and invited all the kids and played silly games. they got loads of stuff, to the point that dirtyblonde was in tears cause they had nothing. they still need more diapers and wipes, but that's about it. i'm so exhausted. momster left me to host the whole thing, and there were about 40 people in our house, including the kids. i knew them all, very well, people from the bux and people from momster's church, old highschool friends and family. it's just hard for me, to do crowds like that. i'm good at blending, i can wallflower it for hours. i'm good at leading, too, it just exhausts me.
chinchilla's being bitchy again, and i don't know why. i still have to sit her down and talk to her about zils moving in and plan a. i'm trying to do it and not make her feel like we're shoving her out, but really, she's going to take it that way anyways, cause she's like that. i'm trying to care, but i don't.
i'm not wanting to deal with the confrontation tomorrow. at all. i don't do confrontation well. when i get really angry, instead of breaking shit, or screaming, i cry, which makes me look like i can't handle hard situations. i hate that.
momster met cop today, since he came in to set up the crib for me. usually when she dislikes someone, it's on sight, and she does the southern sweetness-to-death thing. with cop, she was nice, but not too nice, and even asked if he was staying for the shower. he had already opted to not stay, because it was a lot to immerse himself in right off, and we're going as sloooooow as possible. when he left, she asked how old he was. she said that he didn't seem like the type i usually date, but she doesn't dislike him, which is a first since last year.
found out that yet another acquaintance is pregs. this one i used to work with at the gym. i think it's in the water. she wants me to help her put everything together, so i am. actually talked about kids with cop today. he doesn't want any of his own. he has two stepkids from his last marriage that he's still involved with. i mentioned that i didn't want to go to the shower today, that it wasn't my fault that they forgot to use a condom. i was being snarky and silly, cause i was stressed. he double checked that i wasn't going to end up pregs. and we talked about how most people don't plan their kids. i told him i had planned kid. he was suprised, but relieved. i think it made him feel more convinced that there would be no little cops running around.
i'm exhausted. sleep is calling me. |
bluebuckeye
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9:38p |
Stupid sinuses. I think I'm getting sick again. :-( This sucks so bad. Current Mood:  sick |
tortillafactory
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8:15p |
i think somebody better put out the big light, cuz i can't stand to see you this way ( holy shit ) Current Mood:  calmCurrent Music: Elvis Costello | Alison |
adrinna
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1:12p |
Wedding Update!
We have officially set a wedding date. We're having a private ceremony for family only, but will be having a backyard party to celebrate the wedding (including friends and such) on Saturday September 6th, 2008. It will be very fun and chill and such. We're thinking of renting/buying a croquet set or something. Heh.
We will send out invitations and such soooooon. Woot. Beer.
Zoom zoom. |
nemohee
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3:27p |
What not to do... Classic "what not to do" when you want to receive good customer service: I'm sitting at the LIBRARY help desk, which as you know, is next to the bridge. The bridge has its own help desk, but the students who are supposed to work it are almost never around. One shows up for work and then disappears for most of the shift (or slinks down really low behind his computer, so as to appear invisible to those needing help), and the other one routinely goes outside to make half-hour phone calls every hour. A student walks up to my desk and asks for me to put the window shades down. Now, the controls are in my office, but it is the bridge staff's responsibility to open an close them as the day progresses. As per usual, neither of the employees are at the desk, and I have no idea how to work the controls (as it consists of six unmarked buttons). I calmly explain this to the student, who promptly responds: "Oh. I just thought you were being lazy." Full of win, this one is. For the record, I called down to the reference desk, where one of the librarians explained to me how the damn thing works. I did it this ONCE, but as I will explain to my boss (who will hopefully relay it to the bridge staff's boss, as the chain of command goes), it is not my responsibility, and I will not continue to pick up the slack for absent employees. I did it this time simply because I am sympathetic to the perils of computer screen glare. Current Mood:  annoyed |
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futureshock3
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12:14p |
Human beings are more like a virus
The other day I was thinking about how many people there are on the planet compared to different species. It kind of made me sick to think about how many of us there are compared to how few of so many of them there are. Here's a small comparison:
giant pandas 1600
polar bears 20,000 to 25,000
tigers less than 4,000
Blue Whales 3,000 to 5,000
North Atlantic Right Whale 300 to 350
Rhinos 1600
African elephant 470,000 - 690,000
Asian Elephants 25,600 to 32,750
Great Apes
Bonobos f60,000 to fewer than 5,000
Borneo Orangutan
Central Bornean 38,000
NW Bornean 3,000
Central Champanzee Up to 115,000
Cross River Gorilla 300
Eastern Lowland Gorilla maybe 17,000 at one time
Mountain Gorilla 700
Sumatran Orangutan 7500
Western chimpanzee 21,000 to 55,000
Western Lowland Gorilla possibly 100,000
Humans 6,600,000,000
6.6 billion |
morrigan_circle
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10:13a |
not good enough for your meal ticket taste
the boychildren told me yesterday that they didn't need a sitter and the only reason why i was there was because i needed a job and their mom felt sorry for me.
i was so pissed.
i brought it up to the dad, and he talked to them for an hour, and then took them for ice cream.
he told me later that they said the 5yearold said it, which is not true, and if it was, where does a 5 yearold get that?
then he said they just said it cause they're bored, and he was going to talk to the mom about giving me more money to take them places.
then he said that maybe i heard it wrong.
the mom texted me (not even a call!) about how she wanted to clarify what happened. i told her i had family things all weekend and we'd catch up after church.
i think i might be fired, because i refuse to say that i was wrong, cause i wasn't.
they are rude, spoiled, disrespectful kids, and they're getting this from somewhere.
i hope she tells me she doesn't need me anymore. |
bluebuckeye
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9:56a |
HA! Holy shit. I just was unfriended (in spectacularly hilarious fashion no less) because I disagreed with someone. This is a first for me. I've lost my unfriending virginity. Apparently not holding holy objects sacred when I have no religion of my own, is hate. kevinbelt and buckeyeschild you should probably just unfriend me now because I apparently hate Catholics! Current Mood:  amused |
| Friday, July 25th, 2008 |
mecurtin
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10:23p |
Horses need rescue, TX janissa reports: Today I went to view a property north of Tulia, TX. Unfortunately when we got there we discovered that evidently the owners have abandoned two horses on the property. ...
They are roaming free on the property. There is no power to the electrified fence. No access to water, and as you can see the ground is grazed to dust. If anyone is in the right part of TX and can help, or knows who can go to her post with details. Apparently as the economy tanks this is not all that uncommon. |
ques_nova
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9:58p |
Something I typed up in the hospital. I'll add more later.
1:42 am on July 22nd Tori Matthew was born. I don't think this has quite sunk in yet, but I'm doing better than I had expected. He's tiny... most would look at an 8 lb 10 ½ oz baby and say he's big, in fact, most have, but he's still so much smaller than either of the girls were. That makes me a little nervous, but after everything we went through to get him out, I know anything more would have been too much.
We started induction at 8 am on the 21st and after several hours of decent contractions, I still hadn't gotten any further than 1 centimeter. Paula said that because he was so much smaller and so much higher up, he wasn't putting pressure on my cervix and so we needed to help me dilate. She had to use a balloon to do it, which was amusing (although how it had to be put in was not and Mom had to convince me to do it.) Between that, a lot of pain medicine and the epidural, I was finally ready to push, but he was still fighting it.
He had one of his hands between his head and my cervix. Paula and a couple of the nurses' reactions to actually seeing his hand there had at least Mom worried. The nurses kept asking if she was going to call Dr. Adejana and Paula kept telling me if I couldn't push harder, I was going to need a c-section. I knew she didn't mean it. The reason I kept seeing Paula in the first place was because I know she knows me better than any doctor I've ever had. She knows that the idea of being cut open terrifies me and that even suggesting it is enough to get me to do what I need to. That's how she got me as close to bed-rest as she did, after all. She did lots of little things like that to push me along and though most didn't get it or even know it, I knew what she was doing and I know I needed it.
Russell caught on about halfway through all the pushing too. He said he was amazed at the amount of willpower I showed, because halfway through I was ready to give up. I even said I couldn't do it anymore. I knew even as I was saying that, I would do it and had to. I didn't have any other choice, but during that kind of moment, that's still the knee-jerk response. As I sat there though, saying I couldn't do it with Lyn trying to be encouraging, Paula threatening me with c-section and telling Lyn to be quiet so I could hear her and about a dozen nurses in the room whispering and hushing, Russell finally looks down at me and says, “Really? What exactly are you going to do?”
I needed that too. He was amazed how much harder I pushed after that. I would have got to that point on my own, but with him and Paula egging me on, things went faster, I'm sure.
By this point, those who've known me long are probably confused. When I had Acacia and Cailet, I made a point of telling anyone who asked that labor wasn't difficult, that it wasn't even close to the most painful thing I'd been through. I had an epidural with both of them and once the epidural was in, it wasn't even pain so much as a lot of pressure. I had been scared with Acacia, because she was my first and I didn't know what to expect, but with Cailet, everything felt so natural. I knew I needed to push and I knew exactly what was going on. It didn't hurt with either of them. So, why then did this little guy hurt so much? Paula tried to explain it; after he was born, she even told me how good I'd done, that between his hand being in the wrong place and him being face up, it would have been a hard delivery on anyone. I don't know, honestly. I know I wasn't ready and I'm sure that played into it a lot too.
I'm still not ready, but I am getting there.
I've had to make a lot of hard choices over this little guy, Russell and I both have. Another one of those hard choices came up as we went into the delivery room, well after I thought it had already been made. A little flap of skin should not be a big deal; it really shouldn't, but for some reason, it became a big deal. I've been against circumcision for a while, rather strongly against it, in fact. Anytime Russell and I had talked about it, before I was pregnant with Acacia, during both pregnancies with the girls and during this one, once we knew he was a boy, Russell has been rather indifferent about it and I've always been very strongly against it.
From a medical standpoint, the risks of having versus not having a circumcision are about the same and it really isn't a big deal either way. However, on a social level and a moral level, this can be a significant decision. It is something that up until recently was the socially acceptable thing to do in this country and being uncircumcised for someone our age can be a problem socially. This is changing and rather quickly. It's already more common for boys to be uncircumcised on the west coast and it's estimated that in 4-5 years it's will be a fifty-fifty split throughout the country. I've also never been one to do do something simply because it is the socially acceptable thing to do. From a moral standpoint there are a couple of factors that weigh rather heavily against circumcision. There is the fact that a large portion of the nerves are located in that bit of skin. Cutting off that many nerves and deadening that much sensation for something that is “socially acceptable” bothers me a lot. It also upsets me that this decision is made for males without their say in it. While circumcision is harder as an adult, I still don't think it's fair to make this decision for someone else, even your own child when it's not necessary.
All that having been said, Torin has been circumcised and it was my decision.
Curt and Lyn put a lot of pressure on Russell to have Torin circumcised and he in turn put a lot of pressure on me when I was going into labor. He apologized for it later and admitted it wasn't fair to have waited until the last minute like that and he told me later about his parents and that he didn't want it to impact my choice (although it did impact his.) I knew from how he told me in the first place, that at least his mother been the reason for his sudden turn around, but even after he told me, I did my best not to let them impact my decision. What they did was wrong, unfair and completely out of line. It was a reminder that, although we've come to a good point in these relationships and worked out a good living arrangement with his family, it cannot last. They still do not respect us as adults capable of making our own decisions or as parents responsible for the decisions concerning our children.
My first response to this sort of pressure is to do the exact opposite. It has taken a lot of work to force myself not to allow unfair pressure to push me into a decision and to still consider the other side. However, I believe, now more than ever, I have managed to get myself to that point.
While I didn't say it, the truth is, I decided before Torin was even born. While I am morally opposed to circumcision, I can live with compromising my morals in this matter. I could live with it because it meant one less thing to fight over. Russell said that regardless of what decision was made, one of us was not going to be happy about it and was going to resent the other for the choice.
Later in the day, after Torin was born and we'd had our visitors, Russell sat down, much calmer and apologized for how he'd handled this and wanted to talk about both our reasons for and against circumcision. Even though he didn't know that I'd already decided, this meant a lot to me. Knowing he could step back from the pressure his parents were putting on him and rationally discuss this was really important. By the end of the discussion, we were still at the same point, but we weren't angry anymore. So, when Dr. Adejana came in to pick up Torin and asked about circumcision, I said yes, signed the paper and sent them off. Russell thanked me, though I didn't feel as though he should considering I'd already decided on it.
It seemed like with the girls, most decisions were fairly easy. I know most of the decisions that were easier were when it was just us. Anytime our parents got involved, it became harder. I know they mean well, but we have some rather strongly opinionated parents who don't deal well with seeing us make the “wrong” choices. I think all of them are doing somewhat better with this, but certainly not to the point where living together is going to be a good long term solution.
I can see this making the next year or two rather difficult, but I still believe whole-heartedly that Russell and I can do this. |
bluebuckeye
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8:15p |
My goal of reading 50 books by the end of the year is going swimmingly. I will probably reach 50 by Halloween. I'm currently trying to force my way through Watership Down. This is one of those "classics" that's been on my "To Read" list forever. But I've kept putting it off. And now I know why. I hate it. I WANT to like this book. I want to tell people after I've read it how much it changed my life. I want to relate to the characters and say things like "I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL FIVER!" But I seriously just cannot get into it. I want to be thought of as well read, but I've already lost some of my literary cred by professing my disdain (at every possible opportunity I might add) for Hemingway. Saying that I couldn't even finish the ridiculously easy to read "Watership Down" would seriously make me look like a failure. I'm turning into one of those people that only reads fluff fiction with great sex scenes or self help books that don't actually help anyone. Next I'll be reading books off Oprah's book club list. WAIT OH SHI-- *Note this post is rather tongue-in-cheek. But I DO hate this book, and I do feel like I need to finish it regardless of my feelings toward it. Current Mood:  lazy |
morrigan_circle
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6:08p |
Posted using TxtLJ Cop is doing a favor for my family. Transporting a crib in his truck. Niceness is awesome. |
adrinna
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8:51a |
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njyoder
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12:05p |
Stupid Warning Labels What are some of the most interesting labels you've seen? Below, I've transcribed all of the warning labels on a medication I have (a patch). Take special note that they warn you that it's for external use only--as if anyone would accidentally swallow a patch or put it in some orifice. Even the stupidest people wouldn't do that, excluding maybe really young children and other people with a similar sense of reality. The only ones who would do that are ones who intentionally wanted to use them recreationally. The rest is just obvious stuff that anyone would know taking the medication, but I can see some of the stupidest adults conceivably trying them and suing. It's the silliness of a litigious society. MAY CAUSE DROWSINESS.
ALCOHOL MAY INTENSIFY THIS EFFECT.
USE CARE WHEN OPERATING A CAR
OR DANGEROUS MACHINERY. © 1976 THIS MEDICATION
MAY CAUSE
DIZZINESS.
©2000 [vertical on right side]FOR EXTERNAL USE
ONLY
©1976It is IMPORTANT to remove the previous
patch each time BEFORE APPLYING A
NEW PATCH. Follow directions for use.
©2002 [vertical on left side] CAUTION: STATE AND/OR FEDERAL LAW
PROHIBITS TRANSFER OF THIS DRUG TO ANY
PERSON OTHER THAN PATIENT FOR
WHOM PRESCRIBED. |
oontzgrrl
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12:08a |
Daily Tweets
Annoying Twitter haters daily :) |
| Thursday, July 24th, 2008 |
bluebuckeye
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11:07p |
Tweets for the day Because I can never be away from LJ, these updates are automatically shipped by LoudTwitter |
mecurtin
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9:04p |
Dark Knight Trailer report We finally got to see Dark Knight! But first, *of course*, the trailer report: ( spoilery for trailers only ) |
tortillafactory
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8:19p |
our last summer, memories that remain. This is all kinds of fucked up, but on the other hand, I'm not sure it was a horrible thing. I keep thinking about that episode of "House" where Chase kissed the little cancer girl. So I've bought two things for the wedding from individuals on LJ. The first thing was a set of handmade heart-shaped wreath things that I can't really describe because I'm stupid, and the second thing was a tiara. The tiara showed up today. Still no sign of the wreaths, which is weird because I know I sent the money at least 2 weeks before I even started talking about buying the tiara. I should probably dig up that post and figure out what the fuck. Luckily, the wreaths were like $16 for the entire set, while the tiara was $65. If one of them has to be sacrificed to the Post Office Gods, I guess they picked the right one. Tonight, I have shitloads of work to do. So I don't know why I'm on LJ. Over and out. Current Mood:  apathetic |
bluebuckeye
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4:34p |
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snowe
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1:23p |
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nemohee
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morrigan_circle
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10:29a |
i hate the way you look at me i have to say, i wish i could start over the date with cop went well, actually. went over to his place and he cooked, just steak and potatoes, no big deal, but it was good. we talked about last saturday, when i got drunk and went over there, and he didn't try anything, which was unexpected and nice. then we went to humperdinks to hang out with 3 of his policefriends, one of which recently was fired for somethingorother that doesn't really matter. so the night started with me playing with a playmaker and them talking about the case. our waitress was fantastic, total sweetheart. turned out that she was married to an officer who got fired for somethingorother and then decided that he needed to move to arkansas to go to school, leaving her in texas with two kids under the age of 4, living with his parents. yeah. so i instantly friended (ha! martina!) her. she ended up with only us as a table, so she started sitting with us around 10pm. the friends were really welcoming and fun, and they thought i was hilarious. i got the waitresses number (as did one of the friends) and we're all supposed to go to a local hole in the wall next thursday. here's where my problem is - cop is turning out to be a really nice guy, and the spark is there, obviously. but...he's a police officer, and that scares the shit out of me. i've been friends with two different people who've married cops, and they end up on the nasty end of a divorce when they get tired of the beatings. and i've had a few times of being pulled over and the officerinquestion taking some liberties...the movie crash, i had to skip that part, it was hard. so, i don't know. right now it's fun, and i'm just being more careful than usual, because of the fear. kid's been going to vbs all week. now, i'm a christian, for lack of a better term. i believe in god and jesus and all that jazz. but i came to my beliefs after my whole life of being submerged in then running like hell from all the information. i think that a person's beliefs should be something that they come to themselves. i really don't care what she ends up believing as long as she believes in something. atheism is about the only thing i won't accept from her simply because our lives really have been so charmed that you can't rationalize them away. but i have a problem with most children's churches and things of that nature because they really are brainwashing these kids into what they want them to believe. anyways, so yesterday, i pick her and the other kids up, and this conversation happens - ( sunlight makes baby jesus cry )i'm still waiting to hear about this one from the parents. rebought the wreckers stand still look pretty yesterday. i was missing it. that's it kiddos. more later. |
darkladymara
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2:00a |
Beaches Admiral Jello: liek hai Beth: omg hai Admiral Jello: no wai Beth: ya rly Beth: I think we did that wrong Last weekend, we went to the beach in Rye and it was beautiful (even though Long Island Sound doesn't really have good waves or certain other beach-like qualities). So, I took advantage of the smooth water and did a lot of swimming, enough to have sore muscles the next day. I also got kind of sunburned even with sunscreen on, so I'll have to be more careful next time. A giant (dead) horseshoe crab washed up on the beach and we watched this girl spend a good 20 minutes scaring her friends with it. We also saw a tidal pool form which was filled with some sort of tiny snails. Furthermore, there was a hot lifeguard in a kayak. It was a good beach trip, all in all. Then we went on a few rides at Playland, which was also fun, albeit much smaller than I remember it being last time I was there (which was when I was roughly 9). The Dragon Coaster is much less scary than the Cyclone. That said, all the rides at Playland are way cheaper than at Coney Island. The only sucky thing was when we took the bus home that night, the bus left late, we missed our connection to Metro-North, and the next train wasn't for another hour. Today, I found two different awesome things in the neighborhood. The first is we have a cute little library about five minutes away from here which I went to for the first time today. It is a very small library. But, that said, it's only five minutes away, so I think I'll be using it more (especially now that I don't have book loan privileges at work anymore and need to relearn how to use a library card). The other awesome thing is Riverbank Park, which has a cheap pool as well as tennis courts that are seldom crowded. Hopefully, there will be more visits to both of these places in the near future. If not that pool, then the pool at the Jackie Robinson recreation center - I want to start swimming more again and get in better shape. I'm also trying to exercise more by walking. Hopefully doing more carrying of heavy groceries home from Fairway will help. This year, for the first time, I will be voting in New York county. Submitted the papers today. I'm kind of excited. Because my vote didn't already count for little enough in Westchester, you know. :p Current Mood:  hot |
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