Community Profile

For Those Wishing To Join, Click Here:
http://community.livejournal.com/_survivors_/1588074.html

If You Applied And Were Denied Membership, Click Here:
http://community.livejournal.com/_survivors_/1588444.html

If You Were Accepted, and Later Discover You Have Been Removed, Click Here:
http://community.livejournal.com/_survivors_/1588494.html

Email: survivormod@gmail.com


We are a community for survivors of rape, sexual assault, sexual abuse, physical abuse, domestic violence, verbal abuse, etc. - or for those seeking the support or advice of survivors.


We will not tolerate "support group collectors", period. This is not entertainment.

The mod team is:
sistahraven, briar_witch, druidwolf, and volare, joonzmoon, blueserenity22. If you receive a request from one of the mods, you are expected to fulfill that request as soon as possible. Anyone found to have ignored a request or deleted a mod's request will receive only one warning before being removed from the community.

Since we are one of the biggest and most active survivor groups on livejournal, we can sometimes be a magnet for trolls. To help prevent trolls on your own journal, we recommend you read This post for tips on how to prevent or catch them.

Please note: This is a moderated membership community - meaning we screen each and every applicant's journal, profile, memberships, and interests before approving membership and posting privileges. If you have an empty journal (no posts - or only one or two posts), an entirely friends-locked journal, or if you have a new journal (one month old or less) we recommend sending us an e-mail letting us know why you are applying before you hit the "join this community" button - or we might not approve you. You can e-mail us at survivormod@gmail.com. If you are denied for being a new or blank journal, you may send us an e-mail and apply again.

All new members are required to respond to each week's friends-locked "Welcoming Post" (posted Tuesday or Wednesday), or you will be removed from the group.

You can reach the maintainers of this community via AIM at: survivormod or via e-mail at survivormod@gmail.com

1.Please post triggering text (or pictures) behind an lj-cut. "Triggering" means something that is likely to produce a negative reaction in someone who has experienced something similar before. I.E. Talking about rape or abuse, details about a rape, talking about self-harm or fears should go behind an lj-cut so that everyone has a fair warning about what they are about to read. It's always better to use an lj-cut and not need to, than to need to and not use it. It's a good general rule that introductory posts be put behind a cut, as they contain a description of what you have experienced.

When you put triggering material behind a cut, please specify what type of trigger is below. For example: "Triggers - self harm" or "Triggers, possibly offensive ranting", etc. This will help us know better if we're able to read it without being triggered. This is the single most enforced rule, so please follow it :) This post here also explains our policy on this.

Also - triggering icons are not allowed in this community. If someone asks you to use a different icon, you are expected to do so. Triggering images could include: pictures or descriptions of self harm, physical restraint, blood, suicide, choking, etc.

2. This is a safe space for discussion and venting. Participants are expected to be sensitive to everyone who posts or comments here. Posts and comments are routinely read by moderators, and if anyone is trolling or harassing, they will be banned, possibly without notice. All trolls are reported to livejournal, and may be reported to the appropriate internet service provider and local law enforcement.

This safe space also means that we screen our members for membership in communities which contain majorly triggering subject matter for survivors. Communities we screen for include: ageplay or parent/child ageplay communities, communities for rape fantasies, and communities which are centered around rape or incest fanfiction. If you are denied for this reason, we will help you find support somewhere else

If you are members of communities that promote trolling, or harassment, or if your userinfo contains harassment or mockery of survivors, you will be denied membership and banned, until such information is clarified.

3. This community exists for survival and recovery. Any post containing promotion of activities that contradict that philosophy will not be posted. Posts that encourage self-destructive behaviors including but not limited to eating disorders and cutting, will be deleted. Any post promoting illegal activities makes this community subject to being shut down. As such, all such posts are forbidden, and will be deleted. Repeat offenders will be banned.

4. Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances. With that noted, individuals and groups are not Congress, however we try to follow those same rules.

Hateful, harassing language will not be tolerated here. Ignorance and baiting are also not permitted. All religions, genders, ages, sexual orientations, sexual identity, and cultures are welcome here. Anyone not respecting that will be booted and face the wrath of the Mother Bear. This includes all trolls. You will find no welcome nor mercy here and will be reported to TOS, and where applicable, appropriate LAW ENFORCEMENT. Harassment is illegal, that simple. I log *EVERY* IP address that posts here. Trolls will be reported every single time to both livejournal and your internet provider. (and yes, we will help law enforcement prosecute you!)

5. You can post as "friends only" if that makes you feel more comfortable - even people from your friends list will not be able to read friends-locked posts in our communities. We **STRONGLY** advise this for your privacy and safety. Public posts in this community can be viewed by anyone, however. Also, public posts are viewable in LJ's "explore" area - viewable to all of LJ in a very public format.

If a post is friends-locked, you *must* receive permission of the original poster to repost any portion of their original writing. Anyone re-posting sections of friends-locked entries to journals outside the community without the permission of the poster will be banned - as it violates the confidentiality of our community.

Weekly thought stirring questions will be posted as public and friends-only versions for your privacy. Feel free to respond to either depending on your comfort level.

6. Keep community promos to a minimum, and only those communities that are related to survival and recovery. Self-defense class promos are okay here, but please post details behind a cut to give our members an option of skipping past it.

7. Moderator reserves the right to screen posts to make sure they adhere to the lj TOS and general ethical standards. If a post does not meet the guidelines, the moderator reserves the right to re-post to add an LJ cut or to delete the original post entirely.

8. Though we very much appreciate all the typing, please don't type out textbooks verbatim into posts - it can mess with copyright laws, etc. Summarizing is *definitely* okay, though!

9. Many of our community are willing to offer you support via IM, e-mail, phone, etc. Though a vast majority of these interactions are positive ones, please note that most of our community is not part of the mental health profession, and some interactions may not be what you want or need. Please keep this in mind when contacting other members directly for assistance or support.

10. If, in a post, you ask for advice or suggestions, please note that all of our members strive to be 100% honest. All of our members are expected to be tactful with their honesty, but if something you are doing is unsafe - please know our members will say so. We try to help each other stay safe, so know that if someone is telling you an activity is unsafe, it is being said out of care and concern for your well being.
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SUGGESTED LINKS

Eating Disorders
*Mirror-Mirror Website on Eating Disorders: Website dedicated to raising awareness and providing information on eating disorders. Definitions, signs and symptoms, getting help, relapse warning signs, approaching a loved one, and more.
*Something Fishy
*Body Positive
*ed_recovery
*Harvard Eating Disorders Center
*National Institute of Mental Health-- Facts about eating disorders
*National Eating Disorders Association
*eating disorder referral and information

Rape, Sexual Assault, Stalking, and Abuse
*The Survivor to Thriver FREE online help manual
*What is Abuse? This page has an extensive supply of answers, I love this page!
*Stalking and Bullying - lots of answers to the common questions
*The Serial Bully Bullying and stalking related info
*Aphrodite Wounded: a site for women who were abused or raped by their partners.
*Taking Back Control: webpage with resources and a discussion board for rape survivors
*Ask Amy: violence against women
*stop the clock
*dancing in the darkness
*men can stop rape
*men united against sexual assault
*the safety net
*men unlearning rape
*men stopping violence
*counseling and education to stop domestic violence
*stop family violence
*No Pity. No Shame. No Silence.
*nopity
*marital rape
*rainn
*mental_abuse
*National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
*Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
*National Domestic Violence Hotline
*American Bar Association
*the survivor website:unlisted tears
*coming home to a world without rape
*truth about rape
*welcome to barbados
* whispered_past
* xdont_rape_mex
* rainnmaker (Trigger warning: this community contains uncut survivor stories
* Male Survivor.com - a site for a community dedicated solely to male survivors of rape, incest, and sexual abuse.

Depression and Suicide
*national center for post-traumatic stress disorder
*mental health recovery
*national mental health information center
*depression and bipolar support alliance
*national empowerment center
* attemptfailed

Miscellaneous/General
*What is PTSD?
*MoodGYM - cognitive behavioural therapy exercises
*Coping tips, affirmations, and LOADS of excellent articles
*The Adult Survivors of Child Abuse's Survivor to Thriver Guide
*Civil Harassment (stalking) Orders
*New South Wales Government's free anonymous online counseling
*anti_howwasshe
* Love - a website for support and love!
* vaginapagina - a community for women to talk with other women about everything relating to or about women
* amazon_spirits A community for Honoring, Celebrating and Acknowledging the Feminine Spirit (and yes, men are welcome, too!)
* families_united - for those whose lives have been affected by CPS/DHS/DSS/DCF

Canadian Rape Support Links:
* The Gerstein Centre
* PRIME (Prevention through Risk Identification, Management and Education)
* Distress Centres in Ontario
* Quebec Rape Cris Centre
* Canadian Association of Sexual Assault Centres
* Victoria Women's Sexual Assault Centre 250-383-3232 (hotline)
* The Sexual Assault/Rape Crisis Centre of Peel
Mississauga, Ontario 905-273-9442 (hotline), 1-800-810-0180 (hotline)
* Toronto Rape Crisis Centre(416) 597-1171 (hotline)

LJ Communities
* nopity
* _white_ribbons
* whispered_past
* npd_family
* nol0ngeral0ne
* rainnmaker
* kiddie_rights
* attemptfailed
* forthenotnormal
* _supporters_
* families_united

Self-Defense classes for survivors
* NBS Gym's Women's Self Defense Class in Raleigh, NC


Are we missing links? Are any broken? Would you like your community listed here? Let me know and we'll put them up or fix the links!

Remember: you're not alone! this is a map of where many of us are. Feel free to add yourself to the map, and know you're not alone in this!