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11th-Aug-2011 01:58 pm(no subject)
Stay Together
[info]_delphiki_
Trigger warning for the link: mention of 9/11 and the impact of therapy on therapists and victims.

Talk therapy may not be helpful for trauma survivors.
22nd-Jul-2011 03:24 pm - Thought Stirring Post- PUBLIC
candles
[info]sweetgingertea
Thought Stirring Post- PUBLIC

We regret there have been fewer thought stirring posts lately and will try to get them going again. If you have an idea for a topic, that would be helpful- you can PM sweetgingertea or leave the suggestion in the comments here if you like.

Today's post is based on telling others.

1. How do you decide who to tell?
2. What are some clues that help you decide who is safe to share some of your history or the fact you are a survivor?
3. What sorts of reactions have you gotten in disclosing you are a survivor, positive or negative?
29th-Apr-2011 10:34 pm - Remembering kiota
Happy Otter
[info]gothicotter
With permission from [info]briar_witch , I am posting about a member who passed away three years ago.  She was known here on LJ as [info]kiota , but her name IRL was Anna Rosenfeld.  A memorial journal has been set up under her old username.

( Details... May be triggering for suicide, self-harm, & eating disorders... )( Details... May be triggering for suicide, self-harm, & eating disorders... )
3rd-Apr-2011 08:42 pm - Thought-Stirring Post: Public Entry
coffee: ahhhh
[info]joonzmoon
( Various methods of treatment in the psychotherapy field. )
  • Are you currently / have you previously been in counseling?  What types of psychotherapy are / were you exposed to?
  • Which (if any) methods work(ed) best for you?  Which (if any) were problematic?
  • What remaining questions and/or concerns do you have regarding any of these treatment options?
Bonus question:
  • What non-traditional methods of coping do you consider your own personal modes of "therapy"?
  • 1 comment
  • Speak
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  • Remember
  • Share
29th-Mar-2011 12:19 pm - Thought-Stirring Post: Goals/Achievements
giraffe, stock >> giraffe
[info]pwalkeri
PUBLIC ENTRY

( Brief discussion of achievements. )

  • What is something that you've accomplished/achieved in the past month? What was your motivation?

  • In what way do you think that you could congratulate yourself? (This is a great place for self-care!)

  • Did anyone else congratulate you for something they've noticed in the past month?
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    21st-Mar-2011 08:24 pm - Thought-Stirring Post: Shame & Self-Blame
    jannedoe
    [info]jannedoe
    PUBLIC POST

    ( Talk of shame and self-blame, victim blaming. )
    • Speak
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    • Share
    14th-Mar-2011 12:15 am - Thought-Stirring Post: Victim Blaming
    jannedoe
    [info]jannedoe
    PUBLIC POST

    ( Non-graphic talk of victim/survivor-blaming )
    • How has victim/survivor-blaming affected you and your ability to tell your story?
    • How do you handle a situation where victim/survivor-blaming occurs?
    • What was something positive/validating that someone told you after you shared your story?
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    21st-Feb-2011 02:33 pm - Thought-Stirring Post: Trust
    giraffe, stock >> giraffe
    [info]pwalkeri
    PUBLIC POST


    ( Loss of trust, rebuilding trust in relationships. )

    • Has abuse impacted your willingness/ability to trust? If not, why not? If so, do you feel it impedes your ability to get close to anyone, or does it only affect specific types of relationships?

    • Is there anything you've found that someone can do to help you feel like you can trust them? Are you more/less likely to forgive them if they somehow betray your trust?

    • Do you have any advice for anyone who is trying to relearn how to safely trust someone? Something that maybe you've found has worked for you in the past?
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    13th-Feb-2011 02:47 pm - Thought-Stirring Post: Public.
    giraffe, stock >> giraffe
    [info]pwalkeri
    ( Self-esteem, positive/negative coping skills. )
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    6th-Feb-2011 02:48 am - Thought-Stirring Post: Public (repeat)
    giraffe, stock >> giraffe
    [info]pwalkeri
    This Thought-Stirring Post was initially posted in 2007 by [info]sistahraven. You can find the original post here.

    ( Power Roles in an abusive relationship. )

    This week's questions are:
    - How did your abuser insist on being in a position of power? Was it through put-downs and attacking your self esteem, was it through limiting your choices, or was it some combination thereof?
    - In what ways did that loss of power effect your world?
    - In what way could you reclaim some of your own power?

    Bonus:
    - In what ways have you already reclaimed some of your power?
    • Speak
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    • Remember
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