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j_d_miranda
Feb. 2nd, 2010 06:03 pm Coming Out

Hey Everyone,

I'm doing a research project on coming out for my HSC Community and Family Studies course. I have created a survey with a few questions about coming out, for both people who are out and those who aren't. So if you could just copy it into a comment and, say, delete all the other options (leaving your answer) and write your responses, that would be a great help.

Thank you, 

 Jeanne

All anwsers are annonymus.


1. What gender are you?
o Male
o Female

2. How do you define yourself?
o Gay
o Lesbian
o Bisexual
o I don’t use labels
o Other __________________

3. Are you ‘out’ to friends?
o Yes
o No

4. Are you ‘out’ to family?
o Yes
o No

If you answered ‘yes’ for either one or both of the questions above, go to Q5.
If you answered ‘no’ to both of the questions above, go to Q14.

5. At what age did you come out?

6. Looking back, do you think this was a good age to do it?

7. Who did you come out to first and why? (family/friends)

8. How did they react? Were they understanding, shocked, disbelieving, cruel?

9. If it wasn’t immediate, how long did it take for them to come around? Have they still not come around?

10. What were your reasons for coming out?

11. Do people treat you differently since you came out? If yes, how so?

12. Did you ever get treated badly once people knew? Did you have to deal with any type of homophobia?

13. Do you ever regret your decision?


Thank you for taking the time to complete this survey. If you have any questions or comments, or if there is something you would like to add, feel free to put it at the bottom of the survey, or message me through my LJ account.


14. Can you give your age (or approx. age)?

15. Why have you chosen not to come out? Does the risk of discrimination and homophobia have much weighting in your decision?

16. Do you think people will treat you differently after you come out? If yes, how so?

17. Do you think that you may ever come out to family/friends?

18. If yes, what are your reasons for waiting?

19. If no, can you explain why?

Thank you for taking the time to complete this survey. If you have any questions or comments or if there is something you would like to add, feel free to put it at the bottom of the survey, or message me through my LJ account.  

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From:shattersixx
Date:February 2nd, 2010 08:29 am (UTC)
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1. What gender are you?
o Female

2. How do you define yourself?
o Lesbian


3. Are you ‘out’ to friends?
o Yes


4. Are you ‘out’ to family?
o Yes

5. At what age did you come out?
To friends, fourteen. To family, sixteen.

6. Looking back, do you think this was a good age to do it?
Yes. It was the right time for me.

7. Who did you come out to first and why? (family/friends)
Friends. My friends are more accepting of the LGBT community, unlike my family, so I figured friends would be much easier to come out to first.

8. How did they react? Were they understanding, shocked, disbelieving, cruel?
My friends were understanding. My parents, however, were quite shocked, but they are coming to terms with it.

9. If it wasn’t immediate, how long did it take for them to come around? Have they still not come around?
My parents are in the process of "coming around". I don't think they will ever fully accept my sexuality, but they are making progress.

10. What were your reasons for coming out?
I needed to be open with my family and friends. The lies and secrets were becoming too difficult to deal with, and I felt that our relationships would never truly be close if I didn't tell everyone the truth.

11. Do people treat you differently since you came out? If yes, how so?
I think certain family members walk on eggshells around me now that I am out.

12. Did you ever get treated badly once people knew? Did you have to deal with any type of homophobia?
Once. During the "Day of Silence", a male senior punched my shoulder and tried to push me down a flight of stairs. Other than that, not really. I have been called "dyke" on occasion, but it hasn't been too harsh.

13. Do you ever regret your decision?
No, never. I feel liberated now that I am out.


From:j_d_miranda
Date:February 2nd, 2010 11:46 am (UTC)
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Thanks for taking the time to fill this out for me! I appreciate it a lot.

Also, something similar happened to me on Day of Silence.
From:coldneedles
Date:February 2nd, 2010 06:39 pm (UTC)
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Just to let you know, your question on gender is going to leave out people who don't identify as male or female (eg. genderqueer and bi-gender identified people).
From:drake_13
Date:February 3rd, 2010 03:07 am (UTC)
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I completely agree, and would have said this had you not beat me to it :) Spot on!
From:j_d_miranda
Date:February 3rd, 2010 05:11 am (UTC)
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Yeah, someone else mentioned this as well. But I've already got some other surveys back from people who are genderqueer and bi-gender and they've just put that in there themselves.

Thanks. :)
From:beach_baby3000
Date:February 20th, 2010 02:55 am (UTC)
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I might be a little late, but i feel like doing it anyways!

1. What gender are you?
o Male


2. How do you define yourself?
o Gay


3. Are you ‘out’ to friends?
o Yes


4. Are you ‘out’ to family?
o Yes


If you answered ‘yes’ for either one or both of the questions above, go to Q5.
If you answered ‘no’ to both of the questions above, go to Q14.

5. At what age did you come out?
14

6. Looking back, do you think this was a good age to do it?
Ehh wouldn't have made a difference if it was sooner or later.

7. Who did you come out to first and why? (family/friends)
My friend Kami, and then my brothers girlfriend Jena.

8. How did they react? Were they understanding, shocked, disbelieving, cruel?
Family was like...and? This is something new? They were completely accepting.
Same with friends.

9. If it wasn’t immediate, how long did it take for them to come around? Have they still not come around?
They knew long before i told them.

10. What were your reasons for coming out?
Just didn't want to have to hide anything ever.

11. Do people treat you differently since you came out? If yes, how so?
Not really.

12. Did you ever get treated badly once people knew? Did you have to deal with any type of homophobia?
Actually no not really.

13. Do you ever regret your decision?
Nope. Regardless if it would have ended badly.I wouldn't have. I'm not ashamed of who i am.


Thank you for taking the time to complete this survey. If you have any questions or comments, or if there is something you would like to add, feel free to put it at the bottom of the survey, or message me through my LJ account.


14. Can you give your age (or approx. age)? 18