Polyamorous Otherkin with Multiple Personalities

How to catch a unicorn or what you expect is not what you get.

Thu, 29 Apr 2004 07:14:01 GMT

I am writing this for both my journal and my website. It is perfectly on topic for this community so I'm cross posting. I was hoping to get feedback on whether or not it made sense, flowed at least half way reasonably, and was or wasn’t too bitchy. Grammatical corrections are not unwelcome either. Thanks.

How to catch a unicorn or what you expect is not what you get.
A guideline to pleasing us, written by Angel.

I am not a great writer, but I think this is an important set of concepts. Please excuse the writing style that sounds like I’m talking to you and just read the content. I might ask the Narrator to revise it at some future point.

This is a general explanation of our behavior compiled for new people trying to get closer to us, or those who are not satisfied with their current levels of interactions with us.

Anytime you adjust your natural reactions to life to fit into what you think we expect or want to deal with, you pay a high price. You are locking yourself into a behavioral patter, as opposed to being a real dynamic person. Once you become a behavior, I stop treating you like you are real. If you want to get to know all of us being a static behavior is not the way to do it, that is the way you get a shielded wall for a friend.

If every time you see me you try to kiss me, I will write down that I want to avoid greeting you too closely or too often. If you fall into the pattern of not calling us because you think we don’t want to hear from you, we will probably on many levels forget that you exist. If you cringe upon meeting with us, expecting to be unwelcome, you will be labeled as twitchy and no fun.

Somebody said recently, that there is no pleasing us. He is absolutely right. If you spend your time trying to please us, you will annoy or twitch us out instead. This will happen because in order to please a person you need to watch them closely, that results in the unpleasant feeling of being stalked. No self respecting unicorn will ever loose her horn because the hunters watching from the woods left her a tied up virgin.

The trick to maybe catching this unicorn is to just be yourself. Either I’ll find you interesting or I will not. There is no amount of flattery, chocolate, or offers of eternal anything that will ever win our love. You have no idea what kind of hell and back trip those I care for the strongest have traveled due to their association with me. Certainly they did not get there by not calling me, cringing at being reprimanded; being bitchy or rebellious, or trying to become the most compliant doormat they know how to be.

Every time you modify your behavior to elicit a specific response, our shields will get tripped. We have dealt with so much manipulation, that even benign attempts at control will trigger warnings. It doesn’t matter if it is not your intent to be manipulative. Every time our shields get tripped you get someone like an annoyed Alexis trying to figure out why she is being bothered for nothing. This is bad, because an annoyed Alexis is worse then every other kind of Alexis you might have encountered ordinarily.

Everybody I meet gets the benefit of the doubt, I wait and see if they turn out to be great or not. If you have already tripped our shields a few times, try to keep your physical distance at the same level you would with a platonic friend or a semi wild animal. We will eventually come to you if we like you, but not if you pounce us or jump away too quickly. No sudden motions please.

To conclude, there will never be an Angel or anyone else shaped prize in any game you will play, so don’t play those games with us.

Greetings

Fri, 16 Apr 2004 09:39:53 GMT

I am impressed, pleased, and very surprised that this community exists and am quite intrigued to see what sorts of discussion it generates.

In addition to my LJ info, I am what is most easily described as mid-continuum wrt being multiple and I am also otherkin. The fact that I am both draconic (which I have known for slightly more than a decade) and angelic (which I only realized 6 weeks ago) is rather odd and is still something that I am getting used to.

I am intrigued at the combination of poly,'kin, and multiple. While the overlap between otherkin and multiples is fairly obvious, the inclusion of being poly is less so. Any yet, I am poly and so are the vast majority of otherkin multiples that I know. I am uncertain why this would be true except for the obvious fact that once one gets as far out on the fringe as we are, other fringe attitudes and practices become far more common.

Thoughts?

As a final comment, given some of the issues likely to be raised here, I think that it might perhaps be best if entries where were automatically locked so that only members of this community could read them.

Yes, Virginia, they do exist

Wed, 14 Apr 2004 20:46:00 GMT

I don't have long to post, but I'll be commenting and probably posting in more depth later. I just wanted to say that I'm amazed and rather happy this community exists.

An analytical thought stream on being in love.

Wed, 14 Apr 2004 11:08:40 GMT

Moderators note: I apologize for starting this community off on such a strange note, but I can use a reality check/feedback and in its own way this directly ties into being poly for me.

I believe that there are many ways in which people can feel and express emotion. Given that, all variants of loving feelings are some of the most confusing things in the lives of many people. Love is a very fluidly used term, and despite being often misunderstood I will currently leave alone. Here is an observation I felt I needed to make.

“In Love” is one of the most misused terms I have ever encountered. This is only my opinion, but I think it takes at least two entities to be in love. Otherwise we hit the realm of crush, infatuation and obsession. I do not think that the statement “I am in love with X” can ever be true, unless the statement “X and I are in love with each other” is also true.

This observation is not meant to start an argument, although I would love to hear other opinions, nor is it meant to hurt or belittle anyone’s ideas or emotions. Emotions are fragile animals and if protecting yourself means disagreeing with my opinion, I’m okie with that possibility.

This does not apply to interactions that at one point qualified, but no longer do for one of the parties, just interactions that never had an emotional bond to begin with.

Note that this concept is conditional to how I use the term, other people may be using it differently and mileage varies.

I have a feeling I may be off base and am overlooking something important. Feedback would be appreciated since I do not feel like I have adequately analyzed the issue at hand.

Wow

Sun, 21 Mar 2004 18:05:30 GMT

Yes, Virginia, there is a place on the internet for everyone! Okay, okay, I'm not being snide really, just look at my interest list. I was looking for something else and stumbled upon this apparently brand new community. I don't know what to say right no but it is all very cool.

Hi all.

Wed, 17 Mar 2004 10:32:57 GMT

I would like to make this a comfortable place for people like us. I am not a great writer so it is will be slow. Will add more information later. Add and post at will.