| Community set to friends-only posts |
[Feb. 24th, 2008|08:01 pm] |
Very reluctantly, after escalation of the problems a number of the trans communities have been having with posts being leaked via screencaps and posted elsewhere, we, along with many of the trans and trans partners communities have had to set the default for posts to friends only. Hopefully we will be able to change this in the future, but at the moment for the safety of our communities, this is the way things have to be.
Anyone wanting to join the community who has a community only LJ needs to email one of the moderators with both their normal and community on LJ user names. Emails can be sent to suevill@alphalink.com.au. I'll let my co-mod add his own email if he's ok with people having it.
I'm sorry we've had to do this, but until we can stop the problem, this is the only way we can safeguard (to the best of our ability) the communities we are responsible for.
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| IMPORTANT MESSAGE FOR ALL COMMUNITY MEMBERS |
[Feb. 12th, 2008|04:12 am] |
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There has been a disturbing event happening in some of the trans groups, where a transphobic person has taken screen shots of LJ entries (including friends only ones in other communities) and has posted them on another journal type site. For this reason, I have chosen for now to set new members to moderate(so they will have to talk to me before joining). I can't work out how to set the minimum lj posting in the community to friends only (if anyone knows if this is possible please email me at suevill@alphalink.com.au). Basically, all trans groups are currently potential targets, so I'm doing what I can to minimise damage (I don't THINK anything from here has been posted elsewhere, but I can't be sure.
If anyone has any questions, or further information, please feel free to comment, I am going to set this post to filter all comments til I have read them, so let me know if you want yours unlocked when I've read it, otherwise I will leave it locked in the hope that we can continue as the safe and friendly group we have always been. The filter for this ONE post will be private.
Please can you make all posts friends only for now, and if there are any past posts you want to change the settings on, please feel free, I can't do that (that much I could work out from the FAQ's.
I'll assess what to do as I talk more to moderators, some are looking at the drastic step of deleting their entire members list and making everyone go through moderation! Hopefully that won't be necessary here.
Thanks
Simon
(a note that you've read and understood this would also be much appreciated so I know how much of this community I've managed to get the attention of) |
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| A Question |
[Feb. 1st, 2008|12:15 am] |
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Hi guys. I'm questioning going through with transitioning. During this questioning process, I am reflecting upon some life experiences, and I'm wondering if others can relate. As a kid, I felt 100% male and the fact that my body said otherwise was a source of confusion, shame, and generally being a pissed off and very macho kid. When puberty started, I hated it at first, slouched to hide my developing breasts, etc. However, I kind of blossomed and started to feel (sort of!) female for the first time in my life. However, as I became a "girl," I always observed my behavior from the outside, before acting, saying to myself, "What would a girl do or say in this situation?" This sort of monitoring was always present, as I had never been a girl before, it was all new. As the years of "being a girl" went on, my "girl" self became very solid. There were still gender issues, no doubt, but I buried they very deeply.
I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to having developed a solid "girl/woman self," and I am wondering if, anyone who has had such an experience has moved away from that and successfully transitioned. |
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| tips re swimwear? (cross posted to _ftm_ and australian_ftm) |
[Feb. 1st, 2008|11:21 am] |
hi folks just wondering if anyone has any tips re swimwear (pre chest surgery)?
for the last couple of years ive been wearing boardshorts and this sleeveless, round neck rash vest thing from a brand called "spank" (hehe) that i got from a swim store however they dont seem to make them anymore!
i am wondering if anyone who is also into swimming (laps etc) and has any ideas?
i just found this but its way too funny -
http://www.lovepiec eclub.com/ e/main.php? action=product& seq=941&categori es_id=149#
this could be a goer - it looks like it could be good but costs over $120 so its a bit of a risk to buy if its not going to work
http://www.lovepiec eclub.com/ e/main.php? action=product& seq=1224& PHPSESSID= e29a37311899e92a 48b832183e797813 #
so anyways if anyone has any ideas or sites that might be worth checking out?
thanks heaps.
cheers,
ash |
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| FTM Coming Out Support Group in Los Angeles - Please spread the word! |
[Jan. 31st, 2008|02:27 am] |
Please spread the word of this resource to colleagues, associates, partners, clients, patients, and friends. Thank you.
To join the group (intake and commitment to weekly attendance required), please call (323) 860-5811 to speak with the facilitators and to schedule an intake. Please note that this is a closed, no drop-in group. Starting soon - call now!
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| Trans and Poly |
[Jan. 30th, 2008|02:49 pm] |
This will be a short post.
I was just curious if there are any other transguys on here that are polyamorous except for me. If so, maybe we could be friends or something(?) I have personal trans-and-poly friends, but sometimes they're difficult to get in touch with when I need them.
Any support from you guys (or support in the form of links to trans-and-poly- friendly forums/LJ communities/websites) would be really appreciated at this time.
Peace. |
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| Transgender Study Group in Pittsburgh, PA |
[Jan. 23rd, 2008|10:25 am] |
Transgender Study Group -- you're invited!
Transgender people & allies in Pittsburgh, PA, USA, will begin gathering weekly to discuss articles, watch short documentaries, and share spoken word.
We hope to empower and educate ourselves, unlearn transphobia, and explore trans activism in the context of building broad movements for social justice. Please note: this is a trans-positive space, not a place to satisfy curiosity about transgender people.
Meetings are in Oakland at Pitt, Wednesdays 7-9 PM, for 8-10 weeks starting January 30 (attend as many or as few meetings as you like)
More info: http://www.animalfreedom.info/study/trans/trans.html
x-posted to ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) mtf, transgender, ftm |
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[Jan. 22nd, 2008|08:34 pm] |
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I will flat out admit I didn't go through any other posts before posting this. But I am wondering if anyone ever feels like they are bleeding when they aren't. I have been on hormones for about 3 years now, but every once in awhile I will get like slight cramps and just a feeling like I am bleeding. But yesterday it was really bad like woke me up and lasted all day I soaked in the bath that night it seemed to help. I am going to attempt to find a place to go see a doctor but I wanted to know if anyone else goes through this at all. So any advice or information anyone could give me would be awesome. |
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[Jan. 22nd, 2008|05:57 pm] |
I have been thinking a lot lately about something and I was wondering if anyone else here had gone through something similar.
I’m just shy of 20 years old, and my entire life I've been really invested in trying to live up to the traditional standards of being a ‘pretty girl’. I guess it's just how I was raised. I've identified as male for about 3 and a half years now and no matter how much it hurts to look at other guys and wish I looked like them, some part of me deep down feels like it's important to look good as a woman because that's just what I am supposed to do and that’s what I’ve always succeeded at. There is no way for me to say this without sounding stuck-up so I’m going to just come out with it - based on how other people have always treated me, I know I am pretty as a girl. My mom in particular has always made sure I know how happy it makes her when people tell her "your daughter is beautiful."
So if I can’t be beautiful anymore what good am I? I am finding it really hard, as much as I need to transition, to get my head around the idea of giving that up. Underneath the outward appearance I present to the world, I’m a solidly binary-id’d guy, so it’s not that I would even want to hold onto any “feminine” parts of my appearance after transition. I am really unhappy living this way and it’s clear to me that in order to survive I will need to come out as male and transition, but at the same time I must be getting SOMETHING out of this or I wouldn't still be doing it. I’m just scared by the idea of losing this safety net I’ve always had. Or maybe it's something else I haven't thought of.
This is something that is really holding me back, but I haven’t seen many conversations about it anywhere. I’d appreciate anything you guys have to offer on the subject. |
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| looking for interview particpants... |
[Jan. 20th, 2008|06:09 pm] |
I'm seeking trans guys, men of trans experience, transmen, ftms, and all transmasculine folks for an undergraduate final survey on the sexual and gender fluidity of transmasculine people. I know many of you saw, and have taken, the survey, thank you. This is simply an interview portion to add to the depth of the project.The interview will take about 30 minutes.
about you: all people 18 years of age and older welcomed. testosterone use and surgical status are not relevant. you just need to identify on the transmasculine spectrum. This survey is open to all people born into female bodies and live somewhere on the transmasculine spectrum (transgender, transsexual, FTM, M2M, transmen, genderqueer, etc) and identify with male pronouns the majority of the time. Transition, will be self-defined, not by hormones or surgical status, for this study. Also, unfortunately, i am not able compensate you for your time.
about me: I'm a 4th year Antioch College student majoring in psychology. I'm trans and queer and have focused my college academics around gender and sexuality.
I'll be in the Bay area for 1 week starting January 22nd to January 30th. Also looking for people in Ohio. I'm willing to travel but I'm in Yellow Springs near Dayton.
contact me at transmasculinefluidity@gmail.com if you'd like to participate.
thanks again for all of your support.
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[Jan. 19th, 2008|01:17 am] |
Usually I'm not one for politics, but this one has my attention. Actually I'm a little pissed off.
We all heard about the Susan Stanton stuff, we saw amazing support rallying for her after her blatantly discriminatory dismissal. Past that in a recent article she was quoted thusly:
Susan has met hundreds of other people like her. She was among the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people lobbying for a law that would make it illegal for others to discriminate against them.
But Susan has said all along that she's not like other transgender people. She feels uncomfortable even looking at some, "like I'm seeing a bunch of men in dresses."
Eventually, she decided it was too early for transgender people to be federally protected. People need more time, more education, she says. "The transgender groups boo me, now, when I speak. Isn't that ironic?
"But I don't blame the human rights groups from separating the transgender people from the protected groups. Most Americans aren't ready for us yet," Susan says. Transgender people need to be able to prove they're still viable workers -- especially in the mainstream.
"The biggest issue against the federal legislation is that politicians think the ladies' rooms will be invaded by guys in drag," Susan says, "instead of someone like me."
I'm offended for several reasons.
First of all this woman is 14 months in and was presumptuous enough to say what she said. 14 month's is nothing, plus she's had very little real life expirience, she has one bad expiience to go by.
Secondly, from a somewhat petty standpoint, I can't place the "someone like me" commentary as anything but an unrealistic opinion of her own physiality.
Those two points aside, I can't help but think of the cold hearted facts of the bigger issue. She's right. This society is far too ignorant and intolerant for transrights, i fear that any move we make will only lead to horrible repercussions. I'm not excusing her actions, what was she thinking to say that to a member of the mass media, where it's so easily construed as ammunition to those that would opress us.
It's not that I don't understand what she's saying. Honestly I'm to a point where I find myself reluctant to take certain people certain places and so forth because they're so visibly trans and I don't want to deal with it everywhere I go, but most of the time I just suck it up. What else can you do.
I'm totally interested in what everyone else thinks here so let me know huh! |
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| documentary photo project on trans couples |
[Jan. 18th, 2008|08:24 pm] |
hello eveyone,
i am seeking couples where at least one partner is trans identified (FTM or MTF) for my documentary photo final class project. i have chosen to focus on trans couples.
about me: i'm a queer transboy who is really interested in opening people's eyes to our, the trans community's, relationships. i would like as much diversity in couples as i can get. so it doesn't matter if your are queer or straight i'm interested in showing your story.
about the project: i'd like to be able to photograph the two of you doing something that is fairly common in your life. i'm looking for natural photos, not posed. unfortunately i cannot compensate you but i will be happy to provide you copies of the photos on cd. since this is a documentary photo project i will want your email address and your participation in a few questions (5-10) pertaining to your relationship and your identities. my end goal is to expands people's awareness around trans issues.
i will be in san francisco from january 22nd to the 30th and currently live in yellow springs, ohio. so, if you live in the bay area or ohio area and are interested in participating please contact me at nkowell@antioch-college.edu. please put in the subject line 'trans photo project' and i will get back to you as soon as i can.
thanks very much,
niko
crossposted here and there |
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| MELBOURNE: Transdestinations Festival sun jan 27th - cross posted |
[Jan. 19th, 2008|11:19 am] |
Transdestinations : A symposium and gathering for trans* and trans*-connected people.
Held over one day and two nights, Transdestinations surveys the current state of play and future possibilities for trans-connected communities. It includes forums, workshops, and arts events ranging from spoken word, music and performance to visual arts exhibitions.
The forum program begins on Sunday 27 January with Trans* Health and Wellbeing – a two-part discussion looking at issues of both health and culture. After a lunch break and some poetry and performances, the afternoon session - Living Politics - will kick off with a facilitated discussion about the legal and political realities of everyday trans*life before delving more deeply into issues around the law and legislation. The afternoon will also feature the Trans Sexuality Workshop, focusing on sex-positivity, issues around gender dysphoria, porn, and psychologically- safe sex.
All participants will then have the chance to share in a very special Tiwi Islands Gay & Sista Girls performance, included in the days ticket price.
The Transdestinations symposium and gathering runs in association with spoken-word event Tranzlezbian Gendermash (Sat 26 Jan at 10.15pm), ButchFemmeTrans Melbourne’s A Sunset Soiree cocktail party (Sun 27 Jan at 5.30pm), and genderqueer cabaret/party Upstart Alley (Sun 27 Jan at 9pm) to create a weekend of trans-positive discussion and entertainment.
Date: Sunday 27 January
Venue: Gasworks. Cnr Graham & Pickles Sts, Albert Park.
Time: 9.30am to 5pm
Tickets: $20/$15 - lunch is an extra $5 on the day or bring your own.
Bookings: t: 9699 3253 or www.gasworks. org.au
More info: T: 03 8606 4200 or E: frontdesk@gasworks. org.au |
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| Chicago |
[Jan. 18th, 2008|01:00 pm] |
I'm moving to Chicago in August and I am looking for some trans-friendly therapists to get the ball rolling. I'm ready to start 'T' and would love to get moving towards that as soon as possible, but I know I need a Dr's. note. So, if any of you have ANY helpful info for me it is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance guys.
Alan
Cross Posted to ftm and Transgender |
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| quick question |
[Jan. 17th, 2008|02:24 pm] |
so i am scheduled to get my first shot of T tomorrow. yay! i am very excited about beginning this process.
from reading on here it seems like the doctors always try to get you to start at a dose taken every 14 days and that inevitably that doesn't work for people and they need to switch to every 10-12 days. in light of this i am wondering if i should just request up front to be on a dose that is given more frequently? i am worried about mood swings and bottoming out when the T gets low in my system. i already have trouble during that time of the month with hormonal surges and so i don't want that to have an effect on my T. any suggestions?
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| Relatiosnhip issues...help me?? |
[Jan. 16th, 2008|01:51 am] |
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Hey guys, My name’s Nate, I’m 22 years old and from Rhode Island. I’m looking for some advice or support here, if any of you could be of some helpful I’d be grateful. I’m identified as Ftm and partnered currently a transwoman. Right now we’re having a lot of issues with our relationship We’re in a monogamous, very loving, understanding and caring relationship. But we’re having a few issues right now that are just tearing me apart. That we keep going back to and it feels as if things keep changing. On whether or not we want to be together, break up or whatnot.
To give you a better understanding I id as a bi male, she id’s as a lesbian. For this, she knows that it’s okay and all for her to be a lesbian and like a guy. But before our relationship she had never been in a relationship, had a crush on, or attracted to any male. In her words, she lusts after being with a woman again. Obviously which I am not, she has said repeatedly “Nate, you’re a great guy, I love you, I’m in love with you, but your not a girl”. We’ve had numerous conversations about this but whenever things seem to get better, she seems to change her mind about things. I can’t handle this instability with her, I love her, want to be w/ her and only her. I’ve proven to her many times(as well as her herself) with my words and actions that I love her and only want her, that I not only respect, love and care for her. I just don’t know what more to do. Now she’s been having some issues as of late herself. She has family issues in regards to her being trans (short version: she was disowned and thrown out of her famly’s home about 3 yrs ago), as well as she’s diagnosed w/ clinical depression. She’s currently taking the anti depressants lexapro and welbutrin. The way I feel about this issue is that I feel as if I’m second best in her book. That I’m not a good enough partner bc I’m not female. I just don’t know what to do or think…help?
Also, another issue we’ve been having is that this past Friday 1/11/08, we had gotten into a huge argument In person about the above issue as well as other stuff. I had gotten so angry and mostly emotional, because it had led to the point of us almost breaking up. That I had self injured, I punched a mirror in her room. Now I know this isn’t healthy for me (I’m currently seekng therapy for my own issues), and I want to remedy the problem. The issue is that she now is scared of me, I don’t want her to feel this way. And I wanna work through this so that she isn’t scared of me and feels more positively about things. I really do love her very much and care for her. And I would love to make this relationship work but everytime it seems as though these issues are resolved it seems like they come right back up again…its so frustrating. Can anyone off some help or advice? You can reach me via lj, yahoo im, aim or email. Just ask for the info, thanks in advance.
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| fill my survey out please! |
[Jan. 14th, 2008|10:17 pm] |
crossposted all over |
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| Share your stories! |
[Jan. 14th, 2008|08:00 pm] |
Share your story!
Hey guys,
I am in the process of starting to write a book in which transgender people share their experiences.
So, if you are willing to share, I would love to hear your personal
stories. You can choose to write about whatever you want....
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| What do you do when they're gone? |
[Jan. 14th, 2008|02:47 pm] |
My partner and I live about an hour away from each other. For about five weeks, since the week before the semester ended until about two weeks ago, I was living at hir house with hir and hir family, partially in order to avoid my mother (she kicked me out, which is why I had to live with my partner) but also to get to spend more time with hir and give us an opportunity to learn more about each other. It was great, for the most part, and we got a lot of stuff figured out between us so, now, we're even closer.
But I have recently had to move back to my mother's house a few weeks early because my partner's father kicked me out, after he promised me that he was the one person who wouldn't do that, to anyone, ever. Things are still really iffy with my mom, and the dynamic between us seems to change from day to day -- she's been taken off of her depression medications so that she could be prescribed pain killers for a couple of long-term injuries, and because of that, she's getting increasingly irritable and very hard to deal with.
The only bright spot in all of this has been that my partner and I have seen each other virtually every day. Most nights, ze has stayed at my house, sleeping in my bed with me on the couch since my mother is no longer comfortable letting us sleep in the same bed (she used to allow us to sleep together in my room, but while I was gone she realized that she had done something very wrong, in hers and the rest of her comrades' eyes, by letting us do so). Some nights, I go to hir house, but hir father doesn't like me very much anymore even though he used to when we first started dating and when I first moved into his house, so I don't do that much. But my partner and our lovers are the only things I'm living for now. Yeah, I could say that I'm lucky to have a roof over my head and food to put in my stomach every night, but all of that doesn't mean as much if you're being persecuted every day of your life for loving someone and having to participate in nightly shouting matches as soon as your mother, who is supposed to love you unconditionally, walks in the front door. My partner is the only one who keeps me sane most nights -- when I try to call my chosen family to vent to them about this and can't get ahold of them, if my partner's there, ze is my rock; ze is the one that I know I can always turn to.
So on nights like this, when my partner spent last night and all day here but had to go home tonight, I don't know how to live with myself. I'm so frustrated and so lonely and I know, logically, that I have other people who would be more than willing to talk with me and support me, but right now all I want is my beautiful boi to just be here again. I just want to see hir sweet face and run my fingers through hir hair and hold hir head close to my chest and grasp her words when I cry on hir shoulder and ze tells me that everything will be okay. But I can't have that tonight. I have to wait on hir for a phone call and hope that ze will get home safely, since the roads are all snowy even though they're plowed.
My question is, after this whole, long story, is, for those of you in longer-distance relationships, or for those of you who are in a live-in relationship but whose partners are currently away on business or whatever, how do you deal when your partner is away from you and you're really lonely without them? I could use some support right now. |
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[Jan. 12th, 2008|02:00 am] |
Do any of you guys know of trans friendly therapists in the Eau Claire, Wisconsin area?
Yes, I could go to St. Paul/Minneapolis, Minnasota, or to Madison or Milwaukee, but really, needing half a day to go see someone on a regular basis (and I personally feel that I should, even if they would be willing to write me a letter on a simple appointment) would be very difficult. The car I use isn't mine, and we are both tight on cash as it is, so the gas and time expense is not affordable for us.
I am going out of my head trying to find TG friendly therapists in Eau Claire. It's just not happening for me. All of the TG related websites I look at only list St Paul, Madison, or Milwaukee, too, so I was hoping maybe by chance someone here would have some information I'm not privy to eslewhere.
Help, please? |
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