SO I had to read my original posting so se how it got to attacking me rather than discussing the 'real' issues I presented. I didn't not attack the original poster at all. I did nothing more than show an example of abusive ideology with their post of how we need to change the ideologies behind our current melting pot of experimental laws. Sure the current law works for some. NOT ALL. It does not take into account for those that want to stay into their marriages. Those that want to keep their marriages become attacked with being called harrassers and irrational. However, two people go into a marriage and only about 50% of the time both equally want out. There is always someone being forced to do something they do not. However, the one that gets supported are the ones that put the most anxiety on our children with treating them as material objects and forcing things upon them they have no choice in. IF you ask most of the kids they want their parents together. Counsellors should have more rights to work with a couple through the process before lawyers are allowed to jump into the mess and muck it all up more. There are the worst jokes about lawyers that are true but we accept putting our families in their hands. THAT IS WRONG. When are we going to realize that we are cohersing someone in relationships no matter what is decided as right or wrong way to handle them. Austrailia only has a 25% divorce rate after they revamped their system in 2004 and gave the correct resources to their people. I did not want my personal issues to come into the debate and cloud the real issues but instead of debating the issues everyone in the singleparents community decided to personally attack me and I am sorry I got defensive but that is human nature.
Our current laws impose a perfect world ideology on a imperfect society and we wonder why there is so many fighting exes. There is a way to correct our melting pot but we have to realize that there should be the same rights going out as going in and that is two poeple deciding together as to what that is. Rather than just forcing one party or the other to deal with the current screwed up system that the femminists have imposed on the rest of us and expect everyone to conform. Not to mention if you don't conform you get rights or thrown in jail when your still manipulated and told whenever your calm that they are ready to do what they should of before and when you try to protect yourself your called names like irrational or unreasonable. TWO AGREE TO GO IN AND TWO SHOULD AGREE TO GO OUT!!! QUIT treating our families like businesses. If we are going to do treat them as businesses then all marriages should be required to have a prenup (ilke any business contract) regardless if one party doesn't believe in them or not. I know it won't happen again unless one is signed and gone over by 5 different lawyers to make sure it is tight. I am tired of being vulnerable and being taken advantage of because that is just the way it is. My last one wouldn't marry me with a prenup and said it was a jinks when there were already many other jinks's committed. I hope poeple will realize that just because you have all the power in the current system doesn't mean that your rights will be taken away with tweeks in the law to make it more amicable than the current one is especially for those that want to keep their family together regardless of what others want to impose on them as unhealthy. It is not unhealthy to deal with things emotionally. (at least if the norm for women) and men get tourmented for being logical and more understanding. I am trying to fight for BOTH men AND women. Women have the right to save their families if they choose as well. Although it isn't apparrent with a 60% instigated by women statistic. But with approximately 40-50% remarry to the same mate later down the road and that 50% of child support can't be afforded or makes one party poor and one rich.. means we need to need to change the current laws to be more amicable for all involved especially the women.
www.smartmarriages.com www.divorcereform.org changes will happen whether you guys like it or not. It needs to happen and there are plenty working on it behind your backs. One day the legislators will do what is right and make things better for the family sooner than later.
Women get to complain and accuse and act like victims for the rest of their life after they are abused but when a man complains about it he is just been dealt a bad hand and should just get over it and 'move' on and not talk about it. Well it's real. It happens to men and they have to be given compassion and attention just as much as the women have been given. So tell me how that isn't being oppressed?? I am not just referring to myself. www.malesurvivor.org People are not educated they are just brainwashed as to this is how things are and you can't change them or should try to fight to make things better cause it a waste of time. Well it only took a few women to start an uproar before and so fine attack me all you want I am willing to take the brunt for all those that feel the same as I do. Just because they aren't here on livejournal mostly because they are out working hard to support two households then they are not represented because they can't speak for themselves. They aren't here to defend themselves. So I will.