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[Day 5] Sexuality


Two years ago [info]rageprufrock began the first 14 Valentines and she spoke of how women are praised in song, worshiped in poetry, and derided in culture. She spoke beautifully and elegantly of women, comparing our bodies to luminous flowers. She spoke of the state of women, and the need to remember what we go through, what women throughout the world suffer through.

We are daughters, sisters, mothers, and lovers. If we choose, we can bring life into world with our blood and nourish it with our bodies, but the world that we helped create, that women have bled for and fought for and cried for, doesn't recognize us. Our history is one of abuse. We are not safe.

Women suffer from domestic violence and rape. We are devalued. We are taught that we are lesser. There is still so much work to do, so much for us to accomplish.

It's 2008 and Hillary Rodham Clinton is, as I write this, campaigning for the Democratic presidential nomination in the U.S. Yet, even as this is happening, women are being killed the world over, suffering from infanticide, dying from lack of medical care, killing themselves in the fight to be what society tells them they must. One in three women will still experience sexual assault in her lifetime. So much has changed and so much has stayed the same.

It's 2008 and we've come so far, but there is still more work to be done. We deserve better, and we can do more. We're strong. The next fourteen days is meant to remind us of that. It's our time to take back our bodies.

V can stand for vagina, like Eve Ensler's groundbreaking monologues. V can stand for violence, under whose auspices all women continue to make a home.

V can also stand for victory.




Sexuality

The facts tell us that only five countries in the world have legalized gay marriage, that lesbian teens are more likely to commit suicide than their heterosexual counterparts due to lack of parental and church support as well as the rejection of their peers. Religion and society tell us again and again that homosexuality is wrong, is a sin, is against nature. And still, this is an improvement over the past.

Things aren't perfect but changes have been made; there has been progress.

There are more openly homosexual people in office than ever before, and while there are only five countries that have legalized gay marriage, that's five more than there was a decade ago.

There has been progress in the minds of many over the last few decades, and GLAAD or the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation has worked hard to bring about that change. GLAAD works to bring positive images of homosexuality into the media as well as fighting against the negative, biased, and incorrect information that is perpetuated by various groups. This not only works to open people's minds, but it also gives queer people positive images to identify with.



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[info]lavvyan
2008-02-05 08:49 am UTC (link)
and while there are only five countries that have legalized gay marriage, that's five more than there was a decade ago.

Yeah. Let's hope that in another decade there'll be a lot more.

Today's offering:
Title: Dearest
Fandom: Stargate: Atlantis
Rating: PG-13
Summary: 04-877-57-7G was sixteen when he was finally transferred to his owner. Character death!
Link: http://lavvyan.livejournal.com/211818.html

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[info]macey_muse
2008-02-05 09:18 am UTC (link)
A set of online poetess/poetry recs - 6 poetesses with a total of 10 poems.

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[info]plsteward
2008-02-05 11:14 am UTC (link)
http://plsteward.livejournal.com/79009.html - Wallpaper: Sexuality means basically the same thing, but everyone sees it differently.

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[info]siljamus
2008-02-05 12:00 pm UTC (link)
while there are only five countries that have legalized gay marriage, that's five more than there was a decade ago.

Here's to hoping the momentum in Europe keeps building and spreading, so a decade from now the world looks different.

One minor thing - I'm a bit confused by the numbers you give here. If you're only counting the countries that use the legal term "marriage" I'm thinking you can only actually get to 3; Belgium (2003), The Netherlands (2001) and Spain (2005) and of these 3 the Spanish legislation is the only one which grants full and equal rights in all areas of law. Neither Belgium nor The Netherlands grant full rights of adoption, nor does the legislation governing paternity of children apply.

If you include countries with the same type of legislation as Belgium and The Netherlands, but utilizing the legal term "registered partnership" instead of "marriage", you also get Denmark (1989), Finland (2001), Iceland (1996), Norway (1996), Sweden (1994) and The UK (2004). None of these countries have gone the route of forcing the religious institutions (who's marriage rites are in some countries fully recognized as legally binding and equal to a civil marriage) to recognize same-sex marriage.

(In Denmark at least that is the reason the term "registered partnership" was (and still is) used as the legal term instead of "marriage". In everyday usage "marriage" is winning out as the word of choice. It's a characteristic of the legislation in most of these countries that the few areas where full rights are not granted are areas where protection of other basic legal/human rights come into play and the results have at times been some very ugly fights. Seeing women's rights, children's rights and gay rights activists tear each other to pieces over legislation designed to protect and enforce the rights of adopted children in a world where the medical profession and globalisation are constantly pushing the envelope is not a pretty sight. *sigh*)

Several other European countries are taking baby-steps towards the goal, but only grant rights to same-sex partners in some areas, while leaving out others. Andorra, Austria, Czech Republic, France, Germany, Hungary, Luxembourg, Portugal, Slovenia and Schweiz all have quite some way to go yet, but at least the process has been set in motion.

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[info]irishamber
2008-02-05 12:20 pm UTC (link)
Canada became #4 in July 2005. South Africa #5 in 2006.

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[info]siljamus
2008-02-05 12:57 pm UTC (link)
Ups! Me bad, because I knew that. *head desk* Just goes to show that me in legal mode and not yet fully caffeinated leads to blatant Euro-bias :)

Thank you.

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[info]arysteia
2008-02-06 07:12 am UTC (link)
Also include "civil unions" in New Zealand from 2004. Exactly the same rights as marriage re property and next of kin (uncertain about adoption).

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[info]incidental_fire
2008-02-05 01:18 pm UTC (link)
On the one hand, the amount of progress we've made in the last 10 years is staggering, even if we only consider the ability to talk about it as a political issue. On the other hand, it's so frustrating to see how far we have yet to go...


36 Stargate Atlantis recs - 'previously straight' McKay/Sheppard fic

http://incidental-fire.livejournal.com/17018.html

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[info]bluflamingo
2008-02-05 01:31 pm UTC (link)
Title: First Sight, Second Sight
Rating: PG-13
Fandom/Character/Pairing: Stargate Atlantis/Katie Brown/past Katie/Rodney
Summary: Just because something's over, doesn't mean it's finished (major spoilers for 4.13 Quarantine)
Link: http://bluflamingo.livejournal.com/45535.html

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[info]miriel
2008-02-05 02:23 pm UTC (link)
Title: Hybridity
Rating: PG
Fandom: Stargate Atlantis
Summary: Alike, but not alike. Us, and yet not us.

Raw Link: http://miriel.livejournal.com/420234.html?mode=reply

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[info]an_kayoh
2008-02-05 04:58 pm UTC (link)
Title: Hatmione, Hermittens, and the Red Scarf
Rating: G
Crediting: Mittens and hat by Lauren Kent, from Charmed Knits; scarf is extremely simple - no pattern credit.
Description: Fourteen knits for fourteen days - hat, mittens, scarf.
Link: http://an-kayoh.livejournal.com/121620.html

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[info]kimberleigh_
2008-02-05 06:35 pm UTC (link)
Today's offering, now to finish up tomorrow's :)

Title: Tattoos
Fandom: Bleach
Pairing: Renji Abarai/Uryu Ishida
Rating: Nc-17
Summary: There were many places in Rukongai where you could get tattooed, but only one that was any good.

Link: http://community.livejournal.com/mnemosyne_erato/12516.html

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Day 5
[info]neo_star0114
2008-02-06 12:23 am UTC (link)
Title: Strength; The Hermit
Fandoms: Lord of the Rings, Sherlock Holmes
Rating: G
Description: Just two tarot card drawings today
Link: http://neo-star0114.livejournal.com/24217.html#cutid1

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[info]domtheknight
2008-02-06 12:40 am UTC (link)
22 icons, here, or http://community.livejournal.com/icons_wtf/8835.html - on sexuality.

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[info]v_angelique
2008-02-06 02:48 am UTC (link)
Title: Lesbian
Fandom: Lotrips
Pairing: Cate Blanchett/Miranda Otto
Rating: PG
Link: http://v-angelique.livejournal.com/95034.html

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[info]idyll
2008-02-06 03:20 am UTC (link)
Title: Not a Pretty Girl - Makeover
Fandom: Bandom: MCR
Rating: PG13
Summary: Bob looks in the mirror and might as well be looking at her wallflower high school self, just with different ill-fitting clothes.
Link: http://idyll.livejournal.com/421667.html

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[info]streussal
2008-02-06 03:33 am UTC (link)
Icons on the Theme of Sexuality Mild NSFW

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[info]gemmi999
2008-02-06 03:56 am UTC (link)
I have a personal narrative to contribute.

http://gemmi999.livejournal.com/19437.html . It's called "Luck: A personal narrative" by gemmi999.

Thanks!

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[info]kyuuketsukirui
2008-02-06 04:19 am UTC (link)
Title: The Weight Upon Your Kiss Ambiguous
Fandom: Harry Potter (Lily/James, James/Sirius)
Rating: Adult
Summary: Pregnancy hasn't made her a delicate flower; she's never been a delicate flower. Why can't James see that?
Link: http://kyuuketsukirui.livejournal.com/814671.html

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[info]belladonnalin
2008-02-06 04:33 am UTC (link)
Title: you'd be forced to face yourself
Fandom: bandom (MCR)
Rating: R
Summary: Gerard and Frank pretend better than she does, pretending because they don’t know or can’t see it or some fucking thing.
Link: http://gonnafeelgood.livejournal.com/12477.html

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[info]rageprufrock
2008-02-06 04:38 am UTC (link)
Whew, once again: right under the wire.

Title: Fixer
Rating: PG
Summary: Your secret’s showing, Emma had written, and signed it, E.
Link: http://rageprufrock.livejournal.com/316196.html

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[info]misslucyjane
2008-02-06 05:14 am UTC (link)
Squeaking in under the deadline...

Title: Stay
Fandom/Pairing: Torchwood, Jack/Ianto
Rating: PG
Summary: Jack said softly, “I just wanted to take you out.”

http://community.livejournal.com/lucyjanesparlor/19053.html

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[info]pocky_slash
2008-02-06 05:19 am UTC (link)
Slipping in just under the wire--Super Tuesday distracted me.

Original Fiction:
Title: First Date
Rating: PG13
Link: http://pocky-slash.livejournal.com/1180184.html
Summary: Valentine sometimes think things would be easier if she were straight.

Edited at 2008-02-06 05:20 am UTC

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[info]bossymarmalade
2008-02-06 05:40 am UTC (link)
http://stubbleglitter.livejournal.com/451463.html

a thwackload of femsexual songs to download!

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[info]bunnymcfoo
2008-02-06 05:53 am UTC (link)
40 icons on reading, books, and studying

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[info]arysteia
2008-02-06 07:47 am UTC (link)
http://arysteia.livejournal.com/100162.html

Dead heroes borne from the field of battle

An essay on classical art.

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