September 21st, 2017
|tyto_alba_04||02:15 pm - Concentration and reality|
I find it challenging to concentrate or even relax in an environment where the neighbours are warmthless or in other words people whom you cannot completely trust, and hence my senses are always alerted for receiving any negative cues from the source.
Have you witnessed this? How did you cope?
I have a tendency to completely forget the surroundings and future, and to get immersed into the stuff I'm doing, say reading. It is during this while that I'm my true self, if awaken to consciousness I won't resume to the 'personality variant' needed to respond rightly to the disturbing cue.
This is in relation to my environment in hostel, while studying.
September 18th, 2017
September 12th, 2017
|sanjukta_95||07:22 pm - Books for building vocabulary|
Are there books you have read that could help build vocabulary of polite words/phrases?
I'm a person of little words and refrain myself from speaking blunt truth. I feel the need to spill out often but lack of soft words impair my communication with myself and the world.
e.g. Words for people who 'register slowly'
Books by other introverts? By I_F_s ?
To provide more background: I'm reading The second Sight by J. Orloff. The thing that I find interesting is reading about Intuitiveness and wondering how's it possible. I am interested in- why things are, the way they are (through science).
August 13th, 2017
|theidolhands||07:33 pm - Are You A Perfectionist? |
Wasn't sure who else would find a lot of truth and/or interest, but this article reminded me a lot of myself! Here are a couple of examples & a link to the source.
9 Hidden Signs of Perfectionism
You keep ideas and projects to yourself until they’re fully formed
Unlike Saturday Night Live, you prefer not to broadcast your ideas or what you’re working on until they’re ready for prime time. The prospect of presenting something half-baked is as abhorrent as going out half-naked. In brainstorming sessions at work, you wonder how people can offer up such bad ideas without being embarrassed. You marvel not only at how they’re not afraid for their underdone ideas to fail, but how sometimes, they hit on something big. You wish you could spitball with them, but it just doesn’t feel safe.
It’s tough to relax
Or kick back, or relax, or let loose. Feeling restless and driven often gets mistaken for being a workaholic, but underneath is usually deep-seated perfectionism.
If this is you, unstructured time feels wrong—there’s something else you could be doing. You resent the hours it takes to go for a hike, watch a movie, or play a softball game with your friends because it’s such a time and energy suck. You may leave your vacation time on the table because breaks interrupt your routine. And holidays are the best time to get stuff done because no one else is around to bother you.
Likewise, you’ve tried, but you just can’t meditate. You’re not sure if you’re doing it right, and that makes it stressful. Plus, just sitting there trying to be in the now makes you restless—it feels like you’re wasting time.
March 28th, 2017
|theidolhands||02:12 pm - Being the Subject of Unrequited Love is also Painful|
Another article that I thought others with the same, or similar, personality types might appreciate due to our various sensitivities. This one is from The New York Times, written by By DANIEL GOLEMAN, it's an oldie, but a goodie in terms of psychology.
Pain of Unrequited Love Afflicts the Rejecter, Too
"We rarely hear about the agony of those who are the target of an unwanted love," said Dr. Roy Baumeister, a psychologist at Case Western Reserve University who has done much of the new research. "Literature and film almost always tell the story from the viewpoint of the rejected lover. But both rejecters and would-be lovers can end up feeling like victims."
The experience of unrequited love -- not just a minor crush, but an intense, passionate yearning -- is virtually universal at some point in life. Dr. Baumeister and Sara Wotman, a graduate student, found in a study of 155 men and women that only about 2 percent had never loved someone who spurned them, or found themselves the object of romantic passion they did not reciprocate. Their findings will be published later this year in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
Despite the eventual heartbreak that is the destiny of the unrequited lover, by and large the incidents revealed that there was often more unhappiness on the part of the person pursued than on the pursuer. The unrequited lovers spoke of hope and passion before the final disillusionment; those who spurned them told of an initial flattery that soon gave way to bewilderment, guilt and anger at an intrusive, relentless pursuer.
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Please feel free to share your own experiences on this matter.
March 24th, 2017
|theidolhands||11:02 pm - Learning The Language Of Negative Emotions|
An article that I found on Facebook and thought might be of interest here.
Learning The Language Of Negative Emotions – Your Negative Emotions Are Your Best Teachers – Let Them Teach you
1. Loneliness says your need for connection or closeness with others, is not being met.
Generally this boils down to not having the kind of people you connect with around you which brings in this feeling of being alone.
You may be in a crowded room surrounded by many people exchanging a laugh or pleasantries seemingly involved and yet feel lonely.
It’s important to understand that loneliness is not caused by absence of people around you, it’s caused by absence of connection.
We fail to connect because we do not find our tribe. One of the key reasons that we do not attract our tribe is because we hide ourselves behind masks. The first step to resolving this loneliness is understanding and accepting “yourself” as is, with all your positives, your flaws, your insecurities.
Once you have accepted yourself, you will then never want to be someone else in front of others. Once you are showing the world your authentic self, you will attract people like you.
Your vibe will find your tribe. When you vibe connections happen naturally without any effort.
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August 22nd, 2015
|sanjukta_95||12:24 am - Dealing with stress|
How do you calm yourself when extremely stressed?
July 24th, 2015
|theidolhands||04:18 am - The Myers-Briggs @sshole Index|
Some some smart alec decided to take artful pot shots at our various personality traits, reading The Myers-Briggs @sshole Index requires having a sense of humor about oneself and not taking it too seriously. See what you think. Reminds me of a Garfield bookmark I own making fun of Zodiac signs. I still own that bookmark.
I'm going to go put my John Lennon glasses back on now. *wink*
INFPs are not concerned with the material world, anything that matters to them happens inside their head. They are the kid in the back of the class who understands nothing and believes themselves to understand it all, which is why they never ask questions, and always make assumptions. If you correct their assumptions they are likely to not hear you.
In the grand scheme of things, INFPs forgive everyone, perhaps because of the lingering doubt that anything they perceive is truly there. Their animal totem would be the stupid, drooling, cute dog.
Sometimes, the actual real world penetrates the foggy glass of their John Lennon-style rose-coloured shades, and they are prone to extreme depression when this happens. Usually, the best way to get them out of this is distracting them with something shiny, or make a doll of the friend they lost they can keep as a substitute. Since you considered doing this creepy thing, I can but assume you’re an ISFJ, so get away from me, get far away.
They are likely to find meaning in meaningless things, and relationships with INFPs end typically because of imagined slights, or the realization that nothing you’ve said for the last fourteen months have even been processed by their brains. If you leave, it might take them up to three weeks to notice, had you been living together.
insults insights into the other types here (NSFW):
May 20th, 2015
|sanjukta_95||01:36 pm - A piece of mind|
Something I wanted to convey for long to those who were once part of the infp-v2 community of the journal-
It seems to be an empty house which was in the past full of vivid & warm INFP interactions. It gives a very different feeling while reading through the posts.
April 21st, 2015
|theidolhands||06:10 pm - Introverts Unite|
Current Mood: lulzy