March 28th, 2017
|theidolhands||02:12 pm - Being the Subject of Unrequited Love is also Painful|
Another article that I thought others with the same, or similar, personality types might appreciate due to our various sensitivities. This one is from The New York Times, written by By DANIEL GOLEMAN, it's an oldie, but a goodie in terms of psychology.
Pain of Unrequited Love Afflicts the Rejecter, Too
"We rarely hear about the agony of those who are the target of an unwanted love," said Dr. Roy Baumeister, a psychologist at Case Western Reserve University who has done much of the new research. "Literature and film almost always tell the story from the viewpoint of the rejected lover. But both rejecters and would-be lovers can end up feeling like victims."
The experience of unrequited love -- not just a minor crush, but an intense, passionate yearning -- is virtually universal at some point in life. Dr. Baumeister and Sara Wotman, a graduate student, found in a study of 155 men and women that only about 2 percent had never loved someone who spurned them, or found themselves the object of romantic passion they did not reciprocate. Their findings will be published later this year in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
Despite the eventual heartbreak that is the destiny of the unrequited lover, by and large the incidents revealed that there was often more unhappiness on the part of the person pursued than on the pursuer. The unrequited lovers spoke of hope and passion before the final disillusionment; those who spurned them told of an initial flattery that soon gave way to bewilderment, guilt and anger at an intrusive, relentless pursuer.
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Please feel free to share your own experiences on this matter.
March 24th, 2017
|theidolhands||11:02 pm - Learning The Language Of Negative Emotions|
An article that I found on Facebook and thought might be of interest here.
Learning The Language Of Negative Emotions – Your Negative Emotions Are Your Best Teachers – Let Them Teach you
1. Loneliness says your need for connection or closeness with others, is not being met.
Generally this boils down to not having the kind of people you connect with around you which brings in this feeling of being alone.
You may be in a crowded room surrounded by many people exchanging a laugh or pleasantries seemingly involved and yet feel lonely.
It’s important to understand that loneliness is not caused by absence of people around you, it’s caused by absence of connection.
We fail to connect because we do not find our tribe. One of the key reasons that we do not attract our tribe is because we hide ourselves behind masks. The first step to resolving this loneliness is understanding and accepting “yourself” as is, with all your positives, your flaws, your insecurities.
Once you have accepted yourself, you will then never want to be someone else in front of others. Once you are showing the world your authentic self, you will attract people like you.
Your vibe will find your tribe. When you vibe connections happen naturally without any effort.
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August 22nd, 2015
|sanjukta_95||12:24 am - Dealing with stress|
How do you calm yourself when extremely stressed?
July 24th, 2015
|theidolhands||04:18 am - The Myers-Briggs @sshole Index|
Some some smart alec decided to take artful pot shots at our various personality traits, reading The Myers-Briggs @sshole Index requires having a sense of humor about oneself and not taking it too seriously. See what you think. Reminds me of a Garfield bookmark I own making fun of Zodiac signs. I still own that bookmark.
I'm going to go put my John Lennon glasses back on now. *wink*
INFPs are not concerned with the material world, anything that matters to them happens inside their head. They are the kid in the back of the class who understands nothing and believes themselves to understand it all, which is why they never ask questions, and always make assumptions. If you correct their assumptions they are likely to not hear you.
In the grand scheme of things, INFPs forgive everyone, perhaps because of the lingering doubt that anything they perceive is truly there. Their animal totem would be the stupid, drooling, cute dog.
Sometimes, the actual real world penetrates the foggy glass of their John Lennon-style rose-coloured shades, and they are prone to extreme depression when this happens. Usually, the best way to get them out of this is distracting them with something shiny, or make a doll of the friend they lost they can keep as a substitute. Since you considered doing this creepy thing, I can but assume you’re an ISFJ, so get away from me, get far away.
They are likely to find meaning in meaningless things, and relationships with INFPs end typically because of imagined slights, or the realization that nothing you’ve said for the last fourteen months have even been processed by their brains. If you leave, it might take them up to three weeks to notice, had you been living together.
insults insights into the other types here (NSFW):
May 20th, 2015
|sanjukta_95||01:36 pm - A piece of mind|
Something I wanted to convey for long to those who were once part of the infp-v2 community of the journal-
It seems to be an empty house which was in the past full of vivid & warm INFP interactions. It gives a very different feeling while reading through the posts.
April 21st, 2015
|theidolhands||06:10 pm - Introverts Unite|
Current Mood: lulzy
April 22nd, 2015
|sanjukta_95||01:25 am - Quest of friendship|
Hope the members wouldn't mind a straight post on personal problem.
I have always found it very in-fulfilling to communicate with people that do not have similar prospective of life and things. As a child I have always stayed isolated (not very close to others) until I met few similar minded people in middle school. After those years of meaningful happy interactions, I find myself in this lager world having no soul to communicate with as barely anybody (other personality types) would understand what I mean. So, I've no like minded friends to share with.
I'm hopeful to meet them ahead but sometimes it seems very improbable.
I would be glad if others shared their ways of dealing with this, something very likely to be a part of INFP life.
Thank you for replying.
January 9th, 2014
|originalkitsune||08:23 pm - Morning Lark or Night Owl? INFPs????|
I wanted to get a tally of INFPs and if they considered themselves morning people or night people?
Lark or Owl?
Me personally, I'm a natural owl for sure but I fight to go to bed at a sort of normal time to try to maintain a sort of diurnal schedule. I've noticed that many INFPs in know in real life are also owls, even if they force themselves into a lark schedule.
September 18th, 2013
|theidolhands||01:35 pm - MBTI Profiles via "Harry Potter" cast|
I thought this might amuse people.
It's also fun to compare the profiles to other people's profile that you know.
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September 10th, 2013
|theidolhands||11:59 am - The Science of What Makes an Introvert and an Extrovert|
An interesting read about the history of studying the neurology of introversion and extroversion psyche along with revelations thus far. Extroversion & introversion can even be seen on brain scans, additionally proving that Jung called the shots accurately when describing them.
For the full article, please go here:
"Several decades ago, German psychologist Hans Eysenck came up with a more biologically based model for E/I. According to Eysenck's theory, the behaviors of introverts and extroverts are due to differences in cortical arousal (the speed and amount of the brain's activity). Compared with extroverts, introverts have naturally high cortical arousal, and may process more information per second.
This means, essentially, that if you put introverts into an environment with a lot of stimulation, such as a loud restaurant, they will quickly become overwhelmed or overloaded, causing them to sort of shut down to stop the influx of information. Because of this fact, introverts tend to avoid such active environments."
"In a recent book on introversion, author Susan Cain explains that although introverts make up a third to a half of the population, Western society — the United States, in particular — is extroversion-centric. She notes that schools and workplaces are designed for extroverts, under the belief that collaboration is key to creativity and productivity (the opposite of which is true for introverts). What's more, extroverted traits, such as being a gregarious "people person," are highly valued in today's society, and this can make introverts feel like something is wrong with them (and perhaps, make the unhappy). She calls for a new system that gives introverts the solitude they need to thrive."